Considering this issue, nobody is perfect. Too, when gets to be 66 I know I have a lot of history that most people in my present are never going to know. Some of it good, some bad, and some what some people may consider ugly. Nobody is going to ever know all of the thoughts I have had. I also realize that most people don't want to know my full history and I really don't want to know the other persons. What matters to me is what kind of person you are now. As a female I am past the time of having any children and I still have all my male parts and very few female parts. So I have to accept that I can only be a Male to Female transgender. I also have 53 years of male history including 10 children and two spouses that have known my male side. My current spouse has seen mostly my female side. At the most if I were to be stealth, I would to have to keep away from intimate relationships and the party scene.
On just an acquaintance basis, I might have a chance of being at some level stealth. Now its different for transgender teenagers. They have most of their lives ahead of them. They will have most of the rest of their lives as themselves. There bodies will match their genders more closely than those of use who transition at older ages. Should they have to explain all of their lives that they were born the opposite sex? Why? They will have to explain that they can't father or give birth to children.
All of their legal papers except their original birth certificate will say that they are either male or female and even that be legally hidden. Yes if they have an extreme medical emergency and they have a genetics test it will show that genetically they are a different sex. At that point they will have to deal with that issue.
But basically they aren't lying and as time goes on most of their early years as their birth sex will just disappear. They just have to be very careful that their spouses are not violent and prejudice people against the GLBTQ community and that they are willing to accept them for whom they are warts and all. This doesn't mean that transgender children will have to explain they are transgender all of their lives. Everyone has the right to some private life nobody else knows and they will not have to explain.
Individuals who transition as teenagers will have very little history living as their birth sex when they reach 66 years old. So I feel that each person has to come to terms with what they feel others have a right to know about themselves or not. Each of our families may have histories and traditions which other people may have strong feelings against. Many people leave this family history behind and separate themselves from it choosing to keep it private and not explain it to the people they marry and become emotionally close to. Transitioning at an early age could well be one of those things. The longer we wait to transition the more history we have as our birth sex and the less likely we will be to be able to keep our transitioning private so telling those we bring into our lives will become more and more necessary.
At 66 years old if I were to win the $10,000,0000 lottery and I could afford to physically change my body totally female, I would still have to explain that I was transgender if I were not to disappear from my family because too many people know my history.
i feel that when we discuss this issue of rather we should out ourselves to our loved ones who don't know really depends upon where we are in the human life cycle, so we should really try and be more understanding. Each person has a right to a private side of their lives. All of us have them. Many people we become involved with are going to keep a lot of things private from us. What I really feel is important to know it how the person we become involved with is going to respond in a crisis. Will they become angry, violent, hostile, and become physically violent and abusive? Will they or will we become controlling and possessive and emotionally dependent upon the other person or they on us? If this is possible then may we should just walk away quietly.
