Quote from: Zumbagirl on December 26, 2012, 06:17:44 AM
Hi Belle, well it seems that a few of us have appeared suddenly out of nowhere 
Disappearing is fine, but after a while I get curious. Who else made it? Where are all the other trans people, because I'm not seeing them. I'm also thinking that after being out of touch with the community, my t-dar (sort of like gaydar) doesn't work anymore. In some ways I think it's good, because it means we are all integrating and disappearing into the world. It's also sad because it mean we are complete people and yet isolated as well.
At my job I am somewhat of a mentor, helping out other people to advance their careers. There is nothing more fufilling than being able to pass it down and give someone else a shot. It's too bad we don't do something like that for our own community. I'd love to see other successful t people out there in the world. Maybe they are there (like myself for example) and I just don't know it. I do know one thing. One of the ts successe listed on Lynn Conways web site works at my company but a different office. The sad part is, I have been working here for 5 years and never made contact, not even once. They even have a LGBT colleague resource group and I didn't join that either. I don't know what I'm afraid of, discovery, potenial loss of income. I figure they have the resource group so it's safe. But you know how the buzz goes. Once the secret is out of the box, it can never be put back in. So I have to keep away for my own future and career.
I've never had a T'dar or Gaydar. Unless a person is very flamboyant or makes no secret they are gay, I never have any idea.... I spose I just don't care really.
I know there are quite a few of us around where I live, but they've gone deep into the depths of society (like me). At least through this site I can come out a bit and spread a positive message. Like you I don't want to give advice as such, just let people know what worked for me.
I also found Lynn Conway's site inspiring - It inspired me to join here
But like you, I'd never willingly come out at work. I work in a government job, with people whom I really wouldn't want to know. I've been there for 17 years too.... from just after I transitioned. I actually took leave to have SRS. Told them I was going on a holiday
If it wasn't for an 'incident' about 2 months ago I wouldn't have even thought about coming out of the woodwork. Okay, it wasn't an incident as such. I went to my Dr who I've been seeing since transition, to get my yearly refill of HRT. I had to see another Dr there, who pointed out to me that I was a MTF T. This really made my head spin. It was like a slap in the face. I hadn't had those words thrown at me like that for soooo long. But I came back to earth and agreed, I was. I couldn't deny it... Last time I saw my Dr she put me on a different lot of HRT, so I was asked if there were any changes. I said No, as I'd been on hormones for 18 + years and didn't think I could possibly see any changes after all this time. Anyway, that got me thinking, researching on the net, and yada yada here I am!
