Personality traits???

[Elspeth]

Lol, true I just wish more people who had mental conditions pursued counseling positions. They know what would be going on with the people not just reading about it. Though then people say the phrase 'the blind leading the blind'.

One of the problems is that a lot of therapists do come to it because of their own personality disorders. Some of those adaptations are not always a great fit, though, and you still get many therapists attached to theories of trans identities that are dubious at best, based on some pretty messed up assumptions. Be careful who you work with, therapists can really mess you up if you trust them more than they have earned a right to your trust.

[suzifrommd]

So here's my question.... Does anyone else feel like parts of there personality are stuck in the "wrong gender" ? ... Is this normal?

Every Trans woman I've met (and that's several dozen by now) has strong elements to her personality that might traditionally be thought of as male.

I'm very mathematical and analytical, I can compartmentalize my feelings like a man, I like watching pro football, etc. I know Trans women who love guns, do carpentry and electrical work, and who wisecrack at each other the way men do.

But of course these are also traits, likes, dislikes, and abilities that a lot of cis women have. When you transition, you are allowed to be whatever kind of man or women that you want (just like cis men and women are).

I think the idea that transwomen were "born with a female brain" and transmen were "born with a male brain" is a gross simplification. True the parts of our brains that determine gender don't match our birth sex, but for a lot of us either through physiology or through decades of training, our brains are complex mix.

[LilDevilOfPrada]

I have like no "girl" traits to my personality, except baking and dressing up my kitties. I guess hating sport doesnt apply as a gender trait

[anya921]

I think your personality is just who you are, I will not determine your gender. I love animals and I am a caring and loving person. I love cute things. But I also love racing on the street with guys when I am driving and love the look on their face when they realize they got beaten by a girl.  Love the feeling, but does that make me a less of a woman. I don't think so. That is just who I am. A very competitive woman who like to win.

[Felix]

I love kittens and I'm somewhat seriously mentally ill (seems to mostly be ocd and ptsd) and that doesn't make me any less of a boy. I'm just a boy who has nightmares and likes cute animals. It's okay.

[bojangles]

I feel like I'm just not masculine enough... Is this normal?

Yes.
Welcome to the wide, wide world of men.

We may start this evaluation at a different time and place, but it seems to be something most guys have in common.
Probably why so many exaggerate the quality of their membership. 

Not a single one of my cismale friends is without some blend of traits. They might endure a bit of good natured teasing when perceived as too good at the "feminine" skills, but their masculinity does not appear threatened by it.
Of course, they never had to worry about passing or having some trait being used against them to prove their AAB gender was correct. We might feel the need to store some things until clear, but can always retrieve them later. Puberty is by nature a time to question & explore. It stunk the first time around (for me). This time, it's an adventure.