Quote from: NotThereYet on January 10, 2013, 11:19:39 AM
It's like this apparent obsession with breast size and b cups, c cups, etc. A c cup won't make you more of a woman, and a double a won't make you any less.
I don't think any of us were suggesting it would. Ciswomen also experience their own forms of dysphoria when it comes to appearance. Part of me would really like to look like Ginnifer Goodwin, but even if I had trasitioned at age 10, that's was not likely to happen. And it is the wiser choice to focus on inner beauty... at least it's something most of us will need to do to some degree, especially late bloomers like myself. I'm really becoming a great admirer of Lana Wachowski's look, for instance. And maybe some of this comes from appreciating my son's focus, even though he's young enough that, with basic FTM transition assists (top surgery and T) he could become very "passable" in a few years. Yet that doesn't really seem to be a central goal for him, and not nearly one that as many people are now focussed on, compared to how these conversations tended to go, say, 15 or 20 years ago, when I first was entering into them.
Still, I think we all have our dreams and fantasies, and sometimes we do express them. Try not to let it become something that's about you, because most of the time it isn't.
Much of my own fixation on breast size has to do with my father and his Welsh background. I have a lot of bras in one range of sizes that I hope may be wearable once I've developed. Chances are probably tiny that will happen, but I did base the size on my sense of what seemed likely. Granted, it was more based on what would have been probable if I had entered HRT 10 years ago or earlier.
