What does it actually feel like now that you are (rearranged)

[Chantal185]

Ok, I am not going to be having SRS any time soon. However my body has always felt incorrect. Its like I have this mental image of how things "should" feel. However at the same time I am still confused. I hope I do not offend anyone by this post, but I really am curious in case I ever decide to have it done. What does it actually feel like post op? Does it feel strange now that everything is in a "new location" near you anus and where stuff dangled in front before and now everything is much flatter? Do clothes fit differently because of it? Also, how is urinating, does it come out differently? like faster and in a wider stream? How long did it take your brain to adjust to the new position/ increased dampness etc. I think I have some idea of what a female orgasm must feel like, since my parts have always felt wrong, however experiencing it for the first time must be something. It has always felt that my "male bits" somehow worked in reverse. Its like my body projects outward why my mind has all these subconscious things about it being "inside" and getting tight/ gripping and squeezing/ inward and not outward. Now that you can never get an erection ever again, do you find arousal has become more elusive. ie you are less aware it is there and then it gets tingly.  I realize that there is always the chance that you will remain non orgasmic post op, and the sexual aspects are only a small portion of the reasons for having it done. ie mental image is far more important. However I am a very curious person. lol

[mintra]

I'm 7 months post op now. I'd say I feel more CONFIDENT wearing clothes and have fun with it than before especially now that I also lost some weight after the surgery and been able to keep it that way.

Urinating, not as convenient because post-op I like to wash afterwards with my handheld showerhead. Most cis-girls only use toilet paper but I prefer to do it my way. Outside I always use my baby wipes to clean after peeing.

Sex, I haven't thought of that ever since SRS because there was a lot going on in my life that I need to focus on; career, my future, family issue, etc. Maybe I lost my sex drive, I don't know and if I did I wouldn't think it's a bad thing. I don't care much really. I'm still attracted to handsome men just like before though lol.

[eli77]

What does it actually feel like post op? Does it feel strange now that everything is in a "new location" near you anus and where stuff dangled in front before and now everything is much flatter? Do clothes fit differently because of it?

It's hard to describe sensation. It doesn't really feel weird to me. How it was pre-op felt weird. Clothes don't fit very different, no. Other than not having the discomfort of tucking, obvs.

Also, how is urinating, does it come out differently? like faster and in a wider stream?

Messier, basically.

How long did it take your brain to adjust to the new position/ increased dampness etc.

I dunno. By the time I was healed enough to not consider it "surgical site: do not touch" my brain had adjusted.

I think I have some idea of what a female orgasm must feel like, since my parts have always felt wrong, however experiencing it for the first time must be something.

For me, there is no difference. I'm not sure "female orgasm vs. male orgasm" is actually a real thing. It isn't for me anyway.

Now that you can never get an erection ever again, do you find arousal has become more elusive. ie you are less aware it is there and then it gets tingly.

Not really. Still get increased blood flow to my clit with arousal, which is pretty much the same thing as an "erection" or at least my brain reads it the same way. Getting turned on is pretty much as easy as it ever was. Getting off is a bit harder.

I realize that there is always the chance that you will remain non orgasmic post op, and the sexual aspects are only a small portion of the reasons for having it done. ie mental image is far more important. However I am a very curious person. lol

I was orgasmic as of 4.5 months post-op. I'm 10 months post-op. I still have a pretty strong sex drive. I'm working on the acquiring-a-girlfriend thing.

[Nicole]

What does it actually feel like post op?

clothes fit, I feel safer and I don't ever have to worry.
For me I never "hated" having a penis, it just wasn't meant to be there and in the end I had GRS because I felt I didn't to because of my age and that if I was ever going to feel 100% safe as a woman. The last thing I wanted was to have something find out and make a big deal about it.

Does it feel strange now that everything is in a "new location" near you anus and where stuff dangled in front before and now everything is much flatter? Do clothes fit differently because of it?

Womens clothing is made to fit a woman's body.
The thing that tricked me out was how much it "moved" depending on how I was sitting, standing or "on all fours"


How is urinating, does it come out differently?

like faster and in a wider stream?

Heavier, think hose (guy) vs bottle (girl)

How long did it take your brain to adjust to the new position/ increased dampness etc.

The first few months I had a feeling like I had wet myself, that went away a little bit. I get a little bit of discharge these days.

I think I have some idea of what a female orgasm must feel like, since my parts have always felt wrong, however experiencing it for the first time must be something. It has always felt that my "male bits" somehow worked in reverse. Its like my body projects outward why my mind has all these subconscious things about it being "inside" and getting tight/ gripping and squeezing/ inward and not outward.
Now that you can never get an erection ever again, do you find arousal has become more elusive. ie you are less aware it is there and then it gets tingly.
I realize that there is always the chance that you will remain non orgasmic post op, and the sexual aspects are only a small portion of the reasons for having it done. ie mental image is far more important. However I am a very curious person. lol


I thought the same, BOY! I was wrong.
its not just in your vagina area, your toes, back of your knees, back, neck, even my ears feel amazing during orgasm.
I do feel a little gripping, but not much. I've videoed myself masturbating once to see what was going on and it doesn't look as much as what you may have seen in porn.

Arousal builds, but you do know that its there. I used to "melt" in the sun and I would say arousal for me is as close to that as anything else.
I get turned on more often now, post op, than I did before HRT & even pre-op into HRT. However I would have got "movement" down there a lot more, but I wouldn't say I was turned on.

[Zumbagirl]

Ok, I am not going to be having SRS any time soon. However my body has always felt incorrect. Its like I have this mental image of how things "should" feel. However at the same time I am still confused. I hope I do not offend anyone by this post, but I really am curious in case I ever decide to have it done. What does it actually feel like post op? Does it feel strange now that everything is in a "new location" near you anus and where stuff dangled in front before and now everything is much flatter? Do clothes fit differently because of it? Also, how is urinating, does it come out differently? like faster and in a wider stream? How long did it take your brain to adjust to the new position/ increased dampness etc. I think I have some idea of what a female orgasm must feel like, since my parts have always felt wrong, however experiencing it for the first time must be something. It has always felt that my "male bits" somehow worked in reverse.

Well it's really nice to never have to worry about my gender anymore. I can prove it . It's nice that I can wear nice tight womens jeans close to the crotch without having to worry about tucking. It was a truly awesome experience for me the first time I was able to wear a bathing suit to the beach and know that my gender was obvious and nothing would get "untucked" when wet. I don't remember a lot about the old equipment since that's long gone now. The only good part of being a guy was being able to pee anywhere, even in the woods. With female equipment peeing in the woods is just a blast....Not.

As far as my brain, I don't know how to say adjusting. After it was done I felt right with the world. I felt comfortable that I can be me without fear anymore. My first orgasm was maybe 6 months after my surgery, mainly because I was so happy with my vagina, I didn't want to have anything happen to it. I dilated it, but I was afraid to touch it. One day I got over the fear. Someone else mentioned masturbation versus porn. Porn is all for show to keep guys whacking and the wallets open. A female orgasm just doesn't look exciting in real life, but I can assure from my side of the orgasm it feels great

If you ask me, the single and best part of it all is this: I am able to have more than 1 orgasm. There's nothing to recharge or recover from. I can just keep going as long as I want,  although my limit seems to be about 4 and then I am utterly drained. There isn't a guy in this world who could ever do that.

[pretty pauline]

The only good part of being a guy was being able to pee anywhere, even in the woods. With female equipment peeing in the woods is just a blast....Not

That true, also I found with the male equipment is I could hold my pee forever, now I can't hold it for long periods, when I have to go, I can only hold it for short periods, there never seems to be a queue outside the mens loo, but in a shopping mall theres always a queue at the ladies, Im busting to pee but just have to wait my turn, over the years Iv had ''accidents'' I always carry  spare panties in my purse.
Its so long ago now since Iv had a penis, I never hated it, but I had SRS to complete my transition and feel completely a woman. Took a year to heal, time was endless
It was over a year before I had intercourse with a guy, that was awsome, having sex with a guy as an excepted woman with a completely straight guy.

[mintra]

That true, also I found with the male equipment is I could hold my pee forever, now I can't hold it for long periods, when I have to go, I can only hold it for short periods, there never seems to be a queue outside the mens loo, but in a shopping mall theres always a queue at the ladies, Im busting to pee but just have to wait my turn, over the years Iv had ''accidents'' I always carry  spare panties in my purse.

Same here. I was able to hold it longer before srs.

[starbright]

I have the same questions! I am having my SRS This coming spring and I am so excited, but scared aboout the recovery. I am just excited to be able to start dating and going with guys and being intimate with them as a women. It's impossible for me to even think of being intimate with someone when i am not okay or comfortable with what i have below the belt. I just feel like I can really move on with my life after I have my SRS.

[Jamie D]

I'm working on the acquiring-a-girlfriend thing.

I have no doubt you'll get there!

[mintra]

I have the same questions! I am having my SRS This coming spring and I am so excited, but scared aboout the recovery

Don't mean to scare you but it's PAINFUL honey. I can laugh about it now but back then OMG!

[Rita]

Makes sense, the whole peeing thing.  Is the sensation of holding it in different at all? Like the way your muscles clench.  Considering when you clench before the tip squeezed in as well but without the tip it must feel significantly different.

[whoknew]

Although it doesn't apply to me, I always thought that one of the best aspects of being post-op is that there no visible signs of arousal.  I think that being able to fantasize without worrying about an awkward erection must really be great.

[Tristan]

post op at first I couldn't make heads or tails of anything. they were like ,"do you have to pee?" and I was like "I don't know?". but as time went on after a month things got better. It was weird relearning how to control things down their and all but all in all I love it. oh yeah the first week the pain sucked.

[Sandy]

Ok, I am not going to be having SRS any time soon. However my body has always felt incorrect. Its like I have this mental image of how things "should" feel.

However at the same time I am still confused. I hope I do not offend anyone by this post, but I really am curious in case I ever decide to have it done.

What does it actually feel like post op?

For the first couple of months, I felt like I was "super tucked" and tight.  When I related these feelings to my surgeon, Dr. McGinn, she said it was probably the swollen tissue that was traumatized by the surgery and the swollen tissue that had been inverted as a result of surgery.  I guess she was right, because after a few months the swollen, tucked, feeling went away.

Does it feel strange now that everything is in a "new location" near you anus and where stuff dangled in front before and now everything is much flatter?

"Strange", yes, the same way walking around with your shoes on the wrong feet for your entire life, then wearing them correctly feels.  The feeling of "Normal" was "Strange", if that makes any sense.  The oddness passed soon after surgery.

Do clothes fit differently because of it?

Yes, oh yes!!!

Also, how is urinating, does it come out differently? like faster and in a wider stream?

Of course it's different!    For me, it comes out faster and while I can't tell if the stream is larger, because of where the opening is now, it feels like my bladder empties faster now.

How long did it take your brain to adjust to the new position/ increased dampness etc.

Maybe a year, or a little less.  I had stopped standing to urinate years before my surgery and the idea of having to sit came as nothing new.  But I use more toilet paper to clean up the wetness.  I had some phantom sensations and zaps that did not completely go away for almost a year.

I think I have some idea of what a female orgasm must feel like, since my parts have always felt wrong, however experiencing it for the first time must be something.

Well having a vaginal orgasm is, er, unique.  My clitoral orgasms are similar to penile orgasms because they use the same nerves as before.  For me a vaginal orgasm engages my G-spot, which was previously my prostate.  It takes a bit and can be quite messy for me.  And it is not the *BANG* that a clitoral/penile orgasm.  More, it is like satiation the way that eating results in satiation.  Yes it was something!

It has always felt that my "male bits" somehow worked in reverse. Its like my body projects outward why my mind has all these subconscious things about it being "inside" and getting tight/ gripping and squeezing/ inward and not outward.

Getting tight results from swelling of your vaginal tissues and the gripping sensation is contraction of your kegal muscles which in part control the flow of urination.  They are similar sensations.

Now that you can never get an erection ever again, do you find arousal has become more elusive. ie you are less aware it is there and then it gets tingly. 

The most potent sexual organ is the brain.  And it is the brain's arousal that drives genital preparation for intercourse.  I find that an intense fantasy for me results in physical arousal, but not always.  I can have a healthy fantasy without getting *moist*, but if I do, the fantasy becomes more "interesting".

I realize that there is always the chance that you will remain non orgasmic post op, and the sexual aspects are only a small portion of the reasons for having it done. ie mental image is far more important. However I am a very curious person. lol

There is always a possibility that you could end up non-orgasmic.  But these days, with more experienced surgeons, the chances are less.

I've been post-op for about 4 1/2 years, but the memories of the early post-op times are still very fresh in my memory.
-Sandy

[Zumbagirl]

One thing I clearly remember doing once I had some of the swelling down a few months after surgery was panty shopping. I really wanted to thow out all of my pre-transition panties and own new pairs of panties that would never have the unsightly bulge in the front. That was when I fell in love with Victoria's secret undies the pink line, because now they fit correctly.

[milktea]

Can't wait for my panty shopping spree

[blueconstancy]

btw, milktea, I know a lovely British lady who is there with you - scheduled for today/tomorrow (not sure about the time difference). Congrats! And I hope you manage to chat with her, as she's the nicest person.

[milktea]

Not sure we're talking about the same person here...the lovely British lady I'm thinking about left today for her flight back home tomorrow. Pm me if its a different person you'd like to say hi to.