Hair

[Hikaru]

Hi I'm new
I think this is the correct place for this thread
Ihave only recenty started to accept that I am FtM and haven't told anyone yet.
I've always dressed in male clothes so I think its time for me to get my hair cut. I just don't really know what sort of style to have. My mum doesn't like me looking masculine so I need something that could be both a female a#hair cut and male hair cut and not need lots of care. If anyone has any suggestions of a haircut that I could get I would be very grateful.

Thanks

Hikaru

[ford]

Hi Hikaru! I actually just posted about this in the 'Do I Pass' thread:https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,115480.1640.html. I have hair that apparently can look both masculine and feminine. When I got it done I told the unsuspecting stylist to do a 'pixie' cut. Anyways there are a couple pics there if you want to see. It's a start anyway. I'm probably going to cut it a bit shorter here soon.

Best part: zero care needed, just cutting it regularly to stay short.

[Hikaru]

thanks Ford
I looked at pixie cuts before but i thought they looked too feminine, I guess its how you style it and what you wear with it.

[ford]

I tend to apply some product (American Crew I think?) and just sort of...tousle it up it good deal. I think it tends to look more feminine when pressed flat down or combed neatly...Anne Hathaway comes to mind as an example of this. But if you look at guys with more shaggy hairstyles, you'll notice that it's often pretty much the same cut...just, styled differently (and perceived differently probably since they're men)

[Natkat]

when I first wanted to cut my hair my mom didnt want me to because she didnt like me to "look like a boy" which I did anyway.

I made this smart trick to find a picture of a female and get that haircut, in my caise I found a picture of videl from dragonball which I where reading at that time and said I wanted a haircut like that.

[Hikaru]

Ford, if you don't put product in your hair does it look feminine because my hair hates product, I could put a tonne of it in and it would be flat within half an hour.

Natkat, ive been trying to find some pictures of a female with a haircut that could also be masculine but not having much luck, though might get a pixie cut

[ford]

Ford, if you don't put product in your hair does it look feminine because my hair hates product, I could put a tonne of it in and it would be flat within half an hour.

Hmmm. Well the only time mine tends to look distinctly feminine (to me) is after I've shampooed it and let it dry. It just looks too soft and shiny and lies mostly flat.

So I've gotten in the habit of not washing it unless it's genuinely dirty (which I hear is better anyway?), and it does its own version of sticking out in various directions (so really all the product does for  me is let me choose which directions it gets to stick out in, lol). And from what I've seen here on campus (I'm at a university), that's a pretty standard look for a shaggy male.

The other nice thing about a pixie cut is that you can start more or less feminine (appease your mom) and then gradually shorten it each time you get it trimmed until you feel it suits you. For example mine is getting kind of long in the back (especially right above the neck hairline) so I might have them taper that a bit this time with clippers. It's a good haircut for experimentation.

[Natkat]

if your not asian maybe you can try looking for asian haircuts, they seams androgyne for many people so your not to see if its a boyish girl or a guy.



or you can try and seach for androgyne, queer, unisex hairstyle something-something.

btw, short hair isnt nessesarry something your to look more like a boy of. it would be a good idea before you deside which one you should get what kind of face you have.

[DeeperThanSwords]

I'd love to get a more masculine haircut, but I think my lower face is too fat and jowly to pull it off.

[anibioman]

depends on your face shape i sugest a faux hawk just because that haircut is very versatile and is worn by guys and gals.



but when you het home you might want to square of your sideburns.

[Tejas]

I had hair down to my lower back. Cut it all off except for two inches down the center from front to back and dyed it red. My parents saw me with long hair the week before and suddenly I was at my aunt's wedding with a red Mohawk. Around here, Mohawks are sported by either gender and has a badass factor to it. After it got too long I just start buzzing it with #1.

My parents still criticize my hair every time they see me, but it goes in one ear and out the other.

Faux hawks are less extreme and works well for most.

[Hikaru]

Hi
Thanks for all your replies
I don't think a fauxhawk or mohawk would really work. Where I live very few peoplw have them and definately not girls so i would stand out too much for my liking

[AdamMLP]

I've always been able to get haircuts that pass as male without asking for a male cut. I just asked for anything short and off the ears and then went home and just squared off the ends where you'd have sideburns.

That was my haircut a couple of years ago, I've not got any photos of me with a decent haircut since that's not been really male - the hairdressers have all decided that they won't cut my hair as short as I want it.

[ford]

Oy, I'm really liking that look, Alex.

/takes notes for the hairdresser

Would you happen to remember what it looked like in the back? Did they taper it at all or was it uniform length and just chopped off in a straight line at the neck? The lady I go to does best with explicit direction 

[AdamMLP]

I can't really remember, I possibly asked for it tapered because I cannot stand long hair at my neck, but it might have been hacked off by me with a knife if it had grown out a bit by then... It's a weird trigger of mine. I would say go for tapered because it looks neater in my opinion.

[Andy]

I think one of the best things I have done lately is getting the nuts to trim my own hair.

I was petrified to touch it forever, afraid I'd screw it up, but I started to find myself wanting to tighten it up right after my hair cut. (My hair is thick and wild and it's hard to get them to thin it enough.) The last couple of months I have started to take a tiny pair of scissors and with just a careful little snip here and there, I can keep it looking much more tidy day to day, can wait longer in between expensive haircuts, and get the spikes and shaping that I want but tend to grow out too fast after my proper haircuts.

[Rita]

Cut it short in the back, keep some bangs if you have any.  If your hands or side hair line extends past your chin, definitely want to go shorter.

End of the day, once you have an androgynous hair style its going to depend on how you dress/present yourself more than anything else.

[CursedFireDean]

The other nice thing about a pixie cut is that you can start more or less feminine (appease your mom) and then gradually shorten it each time you get it trimmed until you feel it suits you. For example mine is getting kind of long in the back (especially right above the neck hairline) so I might have them taper that a bit this time with clippers. It's a good haircut for experimentation.

This is exactly what I did- every time I go I get it a bit shorter. It's working quite well for me. Yeah- next time I go I'm asking for tapered neck because I hate long neck hair >.<