Still trying...

[Keira]

I need to tell my mom that I'm trans; I've already told her once (in a mildly confusing way), but she doesn't believe me. I can't bring myself to tell her face to face, so I was wondering if I should write a long note...

She can ask me questions after, but I just can't tell her face to face because she'll try to ask 2 million questions. When I mean questions, I mean phrases that will demean me and make me doubt myself.

So,

Long expansive note, or frank uncomfortable conversation?

Neither?

[TanaSilver]

Here's my 2 cents, and that's all it's worth since I don't know you and your mother personally and this is an intensely private thing. But still, you asked

I'd tell her face to face, again, but I would do it as simply as possible and I would provide her with an immediate course of action so she has something to focus on. Like, "Mom, I'm transgender. I think I need to see a therapist. Can you help me with that?" Or something along those lines. She's probably going to pelter you with questions, concerns, etc., but maybe if she has something to do to focus on she will focus on that instead. Also, I would keep it as simple as possible. I would think the more details you give her, the more ammunition she has to fire questions and doubts back at you.

Again, just my 2 cents. Good luck sweety

[Heather]

face to face is the way to go in my opinion. she may ask 2 million questions but be prepared to answer them. The first time I came out to my parents I wrote a letter and that did not go so well. Wish I had just told them to there face but the second time( long story) I came out I told them straight to there face. It was tough but necessary and its most definitely not easy but just stand your ground and be yourself good luck!!

[Keira]

I just don't know if I can mentally pull myself together to tell her face to face. I've already tried to for about three nights, but when I try I just can't. It's not a matter of decision, I just can't mentally pull it off. If I could, I would rather do it face to face.

She's really religious and judgemental...

Any advice?

[kelly25]

I was in the same boat my moms the same way. And I was nervous so the day I told her I asked some of my close friends who knew if I could call them if all went to hell for moral support. Some even offered to be there with me when I told her
So I would say talk with people who know and support you
Just incase all goes bad also find some websites  with info for your mom to look at if you think you have trouble answering questions
Just be prepared for bashing and aggressive questions
But you will never know till you do just rember this if this is truly who you are no matter what she says it will never change your mind or make you question yourself
Oh and also give her time to come around and it may take a Wile

[Rita]

I don't know if linking is allowed but I found this site really helpful.  I printed it out after I came out to my parents and let them read it alone

http://www.tsfaq.info/

Explains most of the basics in the least descriptive(scary) way possible.