Mentioning 'but guys do this too' (drives me nuts)

[JLT1]

I'm FTM, transitioning right now.  Those who know now me superficially, are stunned that I am doing this.  They look at my life, my actions and what I do and tell me "Your a man".  I'm a man because of what I do???  Nope.  Those who know me well, say "I'm glad you finally figured that out (that you are a women).  I do what I do because I have to do it (like my job - I need income), because I need to do it (like eat), or because I want to do it. I help with dishes because I want a clean house and I want to help those cleaning them to have some fun like I will once the things are clean.  Every time I come to a door and someone is behind me, I ask myself "Do I hold it for them or do I let it go?"  Gender - not an issue.  I often just open doors for people because I like to see someone else smile.   

What we do, or don't do, defines character, not gender. 

[Lesley_Roberta]

Men do and have done many things that were formerly considered female domain.

Women do and have done many things that were formerly considered male domain.

But the thing is, society often rarely cares.

My fascination with history makes me ideally equipped to talk for instance on how during WW2 eventually women ended up being needed more and more for factory work. Prior to that though, it wasn't a realm they were welcomed.

Some nations think differently on the genders and their roles. In the Soviet Union of the 40s, women were given a lot more leeway than other Allied nations. I suppose having half the nation trashed by an invader can be very convincing.

But remember, what we fight, are biases, based on consensus, where logic was never required.

There's no reason I can't wear a skirt. I'm of Scottish decent and they wore kilts. And you need to be fairly brave to call someone holding a claymore a sissy. The Greek national costume is what it is, an article of clothing with a very frilly lower portion. Doesn't look very 'tough guy', but try saying that to a typical Greek. Be sure to be able to escape quickly. You can claim it is called a Kimono, but come on, it looks like a fancy dress closed in the front.

So why can't I wear a dress? Because I'm a guy?
Well I don't even agree with being male.
But I will admit, if you don't know, me, on passing me on the street, I won't be annoyed if you react with 'male' to yourself when you see me.
But why should you have a problem seeing a person that looks 'male' to you initially, if they are wearing a skirt?

Maybe you don't really know the person at all then.

Part of the reason I like skirts, is I find them attractive.
Part of the reason for wanting to wear one, is I'd like to look 'pretty', because I am female as far as I am concerned.
Part is my disability actually. I can't stand confining fabrics on my limbs, its a nervous system response.
Part, well on a hot summer day, yes, I'd like my lower regions to be nice and ventilated, who wouldn't.

But thanks to the inflexible nature of society, it's not happening as of yet.

It's a hard truth, but, we can find lots of supportive opinion here at Susan's, but, eventually we need to take our selves out into the public realm, and cope with the people out there.

Men wear men clothes, women wear women clothes (which just happen to have the current advantage to look like a lot of men clothes as well now).
Men do men things and women do women things, and most of the blur is mainly the PC element rearing it's head, which is fine in a lot of the more modern areas of society, but be careful once you leave the cosmopolitan city life. The rural world isn't so easy.