I made a review recently on my blog about binders x)
I'm a DD (insert sound of despair here) so binding is the bane of my existence. For the last 10 months i've been using the Tri-Top from Underworks,
in my recommended size (i would never ever recommend going a size smaller for health reasons...) and I was pretty happy with it. When you've got a bust like me you accept that it's 'as good as it will get'. I just made sure to always wear something that covered the break point between me and my binder, either using a hoodie (zip up) or a button up shirt over a t-shirt with only the second bottom from the top done up (this covered it up nicely).
Before the trip-top though I used the Double Front Compression binder from Underworks. I've actually had to go back to with one because my Tri-Top broke and with my Top Surgery consultation tomorrow (squee) I want to hold off replacing it till I know my surgery date.
In any case, I recommend underworks, they seem to actually understand that not all of us are cute skinny asian boys

They are also super fast at shipping and a good price in my opinion!
For height enhancing shoes, I can't help there. I'm 5.8 with tiny feet (size bloody 6 in mens) but height isn't something that bugs me. I'm tall enough in my opinion. I'm only an inch shorter than my boyfriend so it doesn't bug me. Plus men's shoes are awesome, I want to frolic in every pair of men's shoe (how very gay of me...), I couldn't be bothered worrying about increasing my height =) Men come in all heights. I have an irish friend whose only 5.5, I tower over him lol and that's good enough for me, personally.
Edit: just noticed you said you didn't like underworks because they compress your tummy. I have the solution my dear mate! If you get the tri-top, it stops around your diaphragm so no worries with that one. If you went with the double compression, step into it with the bottom facing up. Pull the bottom up to your arm pits, get all tucked it and adjusted, then pull the top of the binder up, stick your arms through and bang! it ends around your diaphragm again, and it offers you a bit more compression but it is not a dangerous amount of compression by any means.