on buying a vag

[oZma]

how do you decide on buying a vagina? I mean how do you pick a surgeon? errr let me be more clear... how do you look at pictures of vaginas and then say to yourself... Yes! I want one of those!

is it just be or are vag gross? and then I have to take care of it? discharge? smells, yay infections? dialation?

but hey, at least I can wear a bikini or do yoga without feeling embarrased!

or maybe it's just me... that I need to get over the 'decision' to get a vag and move on to just 'having' a vag like the rest of the girl population? that I'm thinking too much about it?

[MaidofOrleans]

Your post made me lol 

[Assoluta]

It may be a matter of which surgeon is affordable or available for you - as long as you pick a reputable surgeon, there won't be a huge amount of difference.

Of course you have to be sure if you want a vagina, not all the "girl population" (in the trans community) will choose to have one, and that's just fine if it suits you.

I found actually that post op, it looked nicer and 'neater' than I imagined it would be (after seeing images of some other vaginae) it is higher maintenance and is more subject to random discharge and smells, but nothing really major - certainly far less than what kind of discharge a GG would get with a period. Dilation is annoying at first but it reduces in frequency, and after a while you can dilate with a vibrator so it actually gets quite fun

[GendrKweer]

Dilation is annoying at first but it reduces in frequency, and after a while you can dilate with a vibrator so it actually gets quite fun

Haahaa! I'm just at that stage, and yup, yup it is. 

[kinz]

so......it's like...

i tried not to think about the fact that the process of going through srs was something that occurred through decision, purchase, and dispensation, because to be honest when i thought about it like that too much it kind of weirded me out.  the way i tried to conceptualize it was to try to remove my feelings and desires from the matter—in essence, to treat srs as a "foregone conclusion" and work with it as a future inevitability rather than a conscious yes-or-no option.  i recognized what the drawbacks and the benefits would be, and just kinda went with it from there.

treating it like that made it feel more ok when i did finally have it, because i pretty successfully avoided thinking "why did i do this" and instead just dealt with it like any other thing about your body that you have to deal with.

so yeah, i feel like it was helpful for me to cut out the "decisionmaking" part of it and just focus on the "having" part.  even given my ambivalent and usually ok relationship to my genitals pre-op, i find i'm pretty happy with things now.  sometimes it's a hassle, but that's how bodies are sometimes, right?  i just have it, it's a part of me like any other.

[oZma]

thanks transtrender... thats helps :-) you seem to understand a little of my brains and how thinking about the 'decision' is driving me Cray cray

[Tristan]

mine was by job quality next was price and last who would take me soonest, worked out well for me

[kinz]

thanks transtrender... thats helps :-) you seem to understand a little of my brains and how thinking about the 'decision' is driving me Cray cray

yeah, totally get you there. it's obviously a different process for everyone regarding what they want out of surgery or any other thing relating to physiological transition, but for me it wasn't constructive to view my transition as something i underwent to empower myself as an executive over my own body. for some people it helps for them to own their own bodies as a sort of rejection of cispatriarchy's claim to ownership, but for me it was basically a reflex rooted in what i originally perceived was the Way Things Were Supposed To Be.

[peky]

So, money not being an issue, what would you recommend..the Thai or the penile inversion technique?

[Zumbagirl]

So in my case, I had a few friends who went to dr brassard. One of my friends, well showed me the end result and I was like wow, I want one of those. Nothing like seeing the results first hand to convince me of my surgical choice. Up until that point I wasn't sure. I heard good things about dr meltzer, there was also dr Biber since I transitioned before Marci bowers took over his practice. So it was Canada, Colorado or arizona. There was also one other surgeon I heard good things about and that was Gary alter in California. Back then I was too scared to consider Thailand, but I have to say in retrospect I got excellent care when I showed up at doctor suporns clinic for my boob job. Seeing dr brassard's work up close and personal sold me.

Of all of the surgeries I have had, I walked in with fairly minimal requirements except for my Srs. I had something in mind that I wanted appearance wise. I wanted smaller sized labia, you know the porn star look. That was my requirements, and I came out a good year later with what I wanted so I'm happy.