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Its a social network damn it...

Started by Lesley_Roberta, March 21, 2013, 05:24:07 AM

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Lesley_Roberta

This is not really a vent, but then again, it does irk me.

Ok you are on Facebook (could be something similar I suppose), and someone makes a comment, that is left open to reply.

Do you reply?

Of course you reply.

It's a social network, replies are what they are for. If you want no replies, well either shut up, or don't go offering things to comment on for starters.

I had a local friend get in a snit over my comments on his postings. They were all manner of things he puts on Facebook, not just one category. The one that broke the camels back, cell phones in Canada, the services are really atrocious. Well they are, but come on, they are cell phones, if you can't live without one, well now you know what a smoker goes through. You've talked yourself into a stupid dependency. I made it a point of mentioning how little I cared about cell phones. I don't have one, have never had one, no plans to get one, and no, I don't think they are vital. I don't it to play games on (I have several doodads with games on them), I don't need the camera, same reason, I don't need it to access the web, same reason. All you get with a cell phone, is the ability to make pointless 'I'm calling because I'm bored and stuck in traffic' type calls, or 'standing in a check out line' or sitting on the bus and 'hey check out this crap' type calls.

When my home phone rings and I am busy, I don't answer it. And busy might be no more than typing this post. I can actually NOT answer the phone just because it rang.

But on Facebook, when I make a comment, it is implied I am asking, 'what do you think', and no, it is NOT "I want your support on this', I am open to any input, even if you totally disagree. I even won't mind someone saying 'that's really stupid you know'.

I get so peeved when people can't handle negative replies.

And if you post 10 links, and I think 7 of them are dumb and 2 of them are retarded and 1 was really cool, then that's the way it is.
I don't want to be told I messed up your discussion. I don't want to be told 'if you can't say something nice say nothing'. No, it's MY Facebook page. I say what 'I' want to say on Facebook. A person is not required to be friended by me on Facebook of course. But if you have me friended, you get all of me.

I certainly don't want to be told, 'well I don't want to have trouble explaining who you are and why you said that to me other friends/family'. Too bad. I'm not interested in 'explaining' myself.  I went out of my way to tell people ON my Facebook page, don't friend me if you are going to be picky about what I say, and who I have for friends. I have nothing on private, and I am not at all worried about privacy. If you are on my Facebook, guess what, the whole world is watching too.

Hi my name is Lesley Roberta, and I am MTF transgender and I can pee standing up. I likely look better than your husband/boyfriend, and no I am not actually ok with that. I don't want men, I prefer women, and I am a very opinionated bitch :)
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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Angela???

Well the way I see it is, stuff facebook I'm not interested! It seem's that we have the same problem where people get upset when we replie, not that I care! Most of the stuff on face book is only other people's crap and I don't care if they went down to some shop, and I don't care for the rest of the crap people put on facebook, let alone the stupid games that people want you to play. Go away I say! My facebook page I cannot get into anyway, so that fixed that!
I'm a girl, I always knew!
Now it's time to stop hidding and show the world who I really am!
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Lesley_Roberta

"Most of the stuff on face book is only other people's crap"

Sums up most of my stuff :)

I for a long time hated the thought of Facebook till I realized, well at least it gets seen.

I have had forums, and no one joined (now that is a good way to feel unwanted hehe).

I have had journals that I think no one read but me (fine if that is the only point I suppose).

I have done the Blog thing, but again, it comes out too much like talking to yourself in an empty room. If no one comments it is not thrilling.

I don't play the games on Facebook. And it took a while to learn how to turn off all the replies based on my listed interests.

But my Facebook page is for me to blather, and for my friends to blather, and for us to comment on our blathering and it be at least people we actually know.

I just hate it when people join a Facebook page as a friend, and then start putting up conditions.
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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Jess42

I've never even used Facebook or ever really wanted to. Just another way to lose your privacy when it's so easy for potential employers to see what you don't want them to know.

I agree with kkut. I think this social media fad will eventually die out. Last year everyone was like, "Do you have a Facebook page?" When I would say no, they looked at me like I had just walked off a spacecraft from the Andromeda Galaxy. It's been a while since I have even been asked if I'm on Facebook. Good riddance, in my opinion.
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Elspeth

I wish I could avoid cell phones, but my ex expects me to have one. So I have one now, and no landline. I do try to encourage people to set up Skype accounts for better quality sound, though, since I no longer pay for a landline.  Not saying they are essential... there is a bit of a problem these days with so many different connectivity options, it's not always easy to know how to stay in touch with someone you need to stay in touch with. My main issues are related to obligations with children than involve me being out and about a lot, and there is no longer a viable or inexpensive public phone network where I am.

To the issue of social networks, one, Facebook ettiquette just doesn't yet exist. I mainly try to avoid Facebook, since only my least computer savvy relatives seem to use it much, and those who use it, use it badly, or are among those most likely to react in ways like you mentioned.
"Our lives are not our own. From womb to tomb, we are bound to others. Past and present. And by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future."
- Sonmi-451 in Cloud Atlas
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Lesley_Roberta

I can relate to those that have stated they have no desire to use it.

To me it is a vital portal.

I understand the limitations it can force on work etc. I have no workplace in my case, no outlet in that realm for social interaction to begin with.

It's a means to an end for me.

If I actually had work, could work, I'd likely not need Facebook.

As for fad, that is a hard call. I don't think the concept of internet social aspect is going to ever go away, but, specific uses do seem to last for a while to be out done by some new method only just made possible by superior programming or technology.

In the 90s ICQ ruled it seemed. But it didn't last past 2000. In 2000 the web exploded and just texting through something like ICQ was just not enough. Web pages were the thing. But I think web pages have toned down a lot. I discovered forums in 2000, and while they have not died down, I have found that most age and lose their sparkle once they mature.

Nothing is forever on the net though. Downloading was 'the thing' in the years 2000-2005, but superior choices seem to be making downloading no longer as vital. I downloaded a massive sum of video in 2000-2005, but today I'd rather pay 8 bucks and let Netflix do all the work of storing the stuff. I used to need newsgroups for anime, but with Crunchyroll, well its pointless to fuss over downloading when they have more than I can watch now.

The key to the whole piracy thing, is find a way to make joe nobody uninterested in getting the content from mr nasty uploader.
I can get games adequately legit now, I can get my movies legit now. But Hollywood continues to fume because I suppose they are just that greedy.

I ditched cable as it was a poor use of money.
But I find I can't completely severe my means of going online.
I wouldn't mind it so much if I had to.
But it is a good portal to efficient means of buying things.
My phone is an internet phone. I pay a measly 99 cents a month for my service. Of course I don't have a cell phone. I can use stuff like Skype easy enough.

I am sure something will eventually replace Facebook.
I think a lot of things are slowly trying to merge.
It's like how all the stores want to be grocery, and hardware and clothing and electronics and provide a place to eat. We just got a Target in town. But the thing is, they do it all, but they don't do it better than specifically focused retail.
I think that is my main beef with Facebook. They try too hard to do too much.
I suppose Facebook is only working, as it is making someone a lot of money.
It could have been Google, or Wiki, or a Blog program that morphed into what Facebook has become.

What is funny, is I don't use my face on Facebook.
And my name, well comically, both my wife and myself, we have typed in our name initial surname, and found scores of us :)
I am not sure you need to worry about privacy, but rather mistaken identity.
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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blueconstancy

I think people get to decide what comments appear on their own social media posts... and then we can decide if it's easier to filter/block them than resist the temptation to comment. ;) You can't really control what someone else posts, and while it's incredibly annoying to have them say you're ruining the discussion, it IS their own space. But you certainly are allowed to post whatever you want on your own page and control comments there! (Basically, if you're commenting to their FB posts it's their space, and their control, but on your own posts getting told to shut up is unreasonable and deserves a block.) Still, people really ought to just delete your comments if they truly can't stand it, not throw a tizzy over it and tell you to shut up.

As an aside, and only since you said you welcome input, the word "retarded" makes me flinch; I'm not the only person who's had that word slung at them followed by even nastier comments. (I'm autistic. "Your mother should have aborted you rather than let you grow up retarded" was a popular comment. Yeah.)
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Lesley_Roberta

Words are tricky things. 'retard' is actually French for something entirely different. I get a lot of laughs out of seeing odd words in odd places that have totally different meanings in other languages.

But I use it more or less as leaving a blank space tends to fail to convey any message.

Everyone has weaknesses though, I apologize if it gave personal offense.
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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blueconstancy

Thank you for that. I work with words all day - I know they're sneaky. :) But it's also made me more aware of what I say, so as not to hurt people accidentally...

(It actually traces all the way back to Latin, where it also meant "to delay, to make slow." Of course, origins don't say much about how a word might be used as as slur much later on.)
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Blaine

It seems like most people take Facebook too seriously. I used to get into a lot of arguments on there, especially with the admins of some of the pages I used to like following. It got to the point where I just stopped commenting on anything outside of my family/close friends and I stopped posting status messages because I didn't want to deal with it. I just find it difficult to take someone seriously when they graduated from high school at the same time I did yet my seven-year-old cousin has better spelling and grammar than they do. I just use it as an easy way to follow video game news now.

It would be nice if they would somehow incorporate spell check into Facebook. I'd even take autocorrect at this point!
I did my waiting! Twelve years of it! In [my head!] Azkaban!
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Lesley_Roberta

Might be your OS might be your browser, I just know I am using Win 8 and Firefox and my Facebook has spell check available.
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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Lesley_Roberta

Groooan, and I was doing so well defending Facebook too.

And life appears to have decided to poke fun at me now.

I am currently dealing with a young lad from India dedicated to flirting with me.

I mean, I told him I was a transgender female. I told it was spelled MTF, I mentioned I have been married 27 years. He asks if I love my hubby. I told him my spouse is a she. He asks if I am I a lesbian.

It's the 90s all over again. REAL cis males drive me nuts :)

I had this problem on ICQ with my name being Sarge I thought including my name as Leslie meant guys would not mistake me.
Now comically I want to be called Lesley, and ironically I want to pass as female, and I have bored guys again flirting with me.

What did I do to annoy Murphy today?
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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kira21 ♡♡♡

Facebook...

I'm having my dinner lolcats


...

Yet I can't seem to stay away for more than a few months.  Whatevs...  Lolcats

Lesley_Roberta

Part of the problem is also he was texting from a mobile. I hope he wasn't doing that and driving.

I know guys that DO use their mobiles while driving, and THAT annoys me too. Just stick to driving the car eh.

Worry about my panties when you get home. Well no, I don't want to even think about that really :)
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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Elspeth

Quote from: Padfoot92 on March 21, 2013, 01:42:20 PM
It would be nice if they would somehow incorporate spell check into Facebook. I'd even take autocorrect at this point!

Most browsers have a spell-check option available. That should work for Facebook as well as it works here from (presently) Chrome.
"Our lives are not our own. From womb to tomb, we are bound to others. Past and present. And by each crime and every kindness, we birth our future."
- Sonmi-451 in Cloud Atlas
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Blaine

Quote from: Lesley_Roberta on March 21, 2013, 03:10:10 PM
Might be your OS might be your browser, I just know I am using Win 8 and Firefox and my Facebook has spell check available.

I need to find a tutorial on YouTube and start passing it around... If I can just help one person it would make it worthwhile!  ;D
I did my waiting! Twelve years of it! In [my head!] Azkaban!
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