Quote from: Caleb. on February 09, 2013, 03:41:00 AM
What a lot of gay men don't even like anal sex and don't have it.
Oh and also, even though I responded to the post alreadyt i have more to add. if one can't be a man because of certain behaviours, well I guess i'm not one and T is a horrible mistake. But oh wait. I might be a bit feminine for a guy but I was masculine for a woman so opposy daisy i guess I'm not a woman either. Actually one of my good friends who was brielfy a girlfriend told me that I am the most gender neutral man she's ever met, in terms of respression anyway because i am binary in terms of my transition itself.
>.> I was like "not everyone does that" and the response was "Yes, they do."
Gender neutral is good.
It's about where I am in terms of roles and that might be what's throwing them for a loop. I did what I want when I wanted. It didn't matter if it was masculine or feminine [or considered such]. Well, until high school when they only way I could get guys to date me was by being feminine out the wazoo.
Quote from: Felix on February 09, 2013, 01:59:17 AM
Aaron I'm sorry they're hassling you so much. If I were you I'd give up on fighting them and just wait until you're out on your own. My gosh if I had to depend on other people's permission to do things I'd have seven kids and live as a woman and go to church all the time and live off of fried chicken and hush puppies. I'd never have had a real job and I certainly wouldn't be on testosterone.
Also, anal sex? Really? If that's not a mandatory part of parenting or childhood for cis and straight kids there's no reason it should be leverage in any argument with you. I wish it were possible for you to be somehow distanced enough to laugh when people bring up that kind of stuff.
I'm hoping to have some sort of job soon where I can get out on my own comfortably, preferably in a place where I have friends who can support should I lose my job over being trans* [San Antonio happens to not have protections for trans* people and they can fire you over it.]
They can't seem to grasp that not everyone behaves that way. "But if you love someone you'll do anything for them." Sorry, but no. I'm not going to have sex because someone loves me and wants it, and if I love them. I've done that and it made me a rather hateful person. If I laugh at anything like that, they get mad. My mom's always been like that, though. -.-;
Quote from: Caleb. on February 08, 2013, 11:58:19 PM
It'll be OK, Aaron. It's not about you. A lot of how people respond is based on how they feel...if you were super masculine as a kid they'd probably still say there were no signs. Or if they acknowledged it, they'd say you didn't try hard enough to be a girl or something. They're just trying to find ways because it's transitioning itself they have an issue with, not any part of you.
They can have an issue with transitioning all they want. I'm still doing it. They just need to bugger off and not be talking to me about it at the most inopportune of moments. It's adding more stress already onto of an already stressful life.
@.< It's not like I bring up the conversations. They do it and it annoys me because I know their position and I personally don't want to deal with it at midnight or even at a 9 at night as I'm tried by then.
