Majority of transguys are gay?

[AdamMLP]

@Alexander: I meant Sex drive towards people dude..

Sorry if I misinterpretted you, I thought you were saying that all asexual people have no libido at all.  A bit of clarification and information can't hurt either way though, right?

[Taka]

i do meet people some times who label themselves asexual not because they lack sexual attraction to people, but because they for other reasons don't want to have sexual relations with anyone. one girl i talked to had been a victim of incest for years, and would flat out reject any advances because the way guys tend to hit on her triggers negative feelings in her, but she was still open to doing things with with someone who could treat her right. i'm pretty sure body dysphoria and other uncertainties could make people label themselves asexual as well.

i'm pansexual and not really transsexual, by the way. celibate for... 6 years? because i'm struggling to find someone who seems possibly able to deal with me, not because i'm asexual

[BlackBird]

@Alexander: Some don't at all, Like myself. Most don't but some do but It's not towards people.

@Taka: I really don't think they should label themselves as Asexual though.. It makes dating for the actual asexuals pretty hard. :/ But yes, I do see that sometimes.

[Arch]

@Erin: Asexuals have no sex drive. None, Not at all, Nothing.

The so-called experts generally don't define it quite so rigidly.

[Bastian]

My general experience with asexual individuals has ranged from, "I don't like the physical/sexual aspects of a relationship." to "I enjoy sex I just don't feel driven to have it." For some asexuals it's also mental too, they don't really get any pleasure from sex physically, but find it mentally exhilarating, making them more inclined to be an 'observer' in a sexual situation.  I think asexual should be thought of as a broad term that defines those who feel less inclined, than your average person, to have sex. Whether that means they never want to have sex or simply don't feel inclined to ever initiate it, but don't mind having it with their loved one.

[Nyri]

Right now I'm a panromantic demisexual.  haha pandemi.  Some people's attractions have changed with T, so I may not always be that, but I'm just not really interested in genitals or sexual characteristics.  I'm interested in someone I can connect with and that could be any gender.

Oh, and even though I'm demisexual I have a fairly high sex drive.  I'm just not sexually attracted to a person until I have made that connection with them.  The better of a connection I have with them, the more sexually attractive they become to me.  I obviously can go have sex with anyone, and may get pleasure out of it, but in my experience, it's not even worth it.  I have no desire to have sex with them, so why bother?  The only time in my life I did that, it was because I was feeling useless... I didn't enjoy it at all, it was just kind of like a drug... I'd rather get off by myself or not at all than with someone I don't have the connection with.  I kind of wish that I was someone who enjoyed that, though.  I really miss having sex with my ex.

[notyouraverageguy]

Most transguys I know are straight. I think the link comes in if one goes on t, I've heard some guys go from straight pre t to more open minded on t. So they begin to be attracted to other guys, but most are afraid to admit it. I'm sure its partly society, their environment, and them not feeling comfortable with the "confusion". But like I said most transguys I've known are straight, though I've known a few who identified as straight but were down low pansexual. I feel like non normative individuals are more out there and voice themselves louder than normative people.

[ChaoticTribe]

I'm a transguy and I am very gay. Not in an effeminate way, but in an experimental skater boy sort of way. People meeting me can tell that I am gay or at least are not surprised to hear it, and I have tats/piercings which I have found many of those people are more sexually open or adventurous (already going against the predominant culture, I suppose). I've even found that a lot of guys who claim to be straight (tentative bisexuals, I would presume) are attracted to me, even if they say they wouldn't ever want to do anything with a guy, a lot of them acknowledge me as sexy.

I think that more transguys are straight than gay, but that having such a strong affinity for and identification with masculinity would lead many of us to be adoring of the male body as well as traits.

Personally, I have some attraction to females in porn, but I am not really interested in them romantically at all (no crushes) and aside from curiosity about what it would be like to have a sexual experience with my enhanced genitals, I don't really have interest in anyone who isn't a guy.

Some of us also have enough emotional baggage to feel discomfort with women on such an intimate level, especially those who maybe got labelled as 'lesbian' either due to attraction to women or to a masculine style before transitioning. I remember getting called that before I transitioned and being incensed! Not only was I NOT into women, I was also not female-identified!

[justwright88]

I think Testosterone has made me more open minded. Before T i was NOT attracted to men at all. I didn't want them touching me. I didn't think of them sexually. nothing. but since T. i am into men now. and i constantly think about them sexually. I would be open to even dating a guy. kinda weird huh

[Erik Ezrin]

Nyri, I think I'm panromantic demisexual too, you see...
Since I don't have a total detest of sex, or totally lack a sex drive, but I can't just have a 'one night stand'. I must really know a person, be 'compatible' emotionally, and interest-wise. Regardless of gender, gender identity or anything. As 'sex' as in the actual deed isn't THAT important to me. It plays a role, yes, and it distinguishes a love relationship from a friend relationship, but it's not everything. I noticed that most teenagers care WAY much about it than I do, to the point of stealing kisses at EVERY moment. And I just would get crazy of that.
And this just 'rings' with me. I never felt like 'really' asexual, but not 'normally' sexual either, and I've always wondered whether I would be les (when sort of accepting myself as a 'girl'), but it didn't quite feel right either. I identified as bi for a LONG time, but this jut fits better, methinks

[Hayzer12]

I'm very straight.

[D0LL]

I'm realizing the more my body cleanses itself of those dreaded phytoestrogens I was taking, and the more my natural T levels start to rise again in comparison to my E levels, the more I notice women in a more sexual way. I'm not sure if my sexuality in general is becoming hyperactive, if I'm actually shifting more towards liking women (I still very much prefer men though), or if my sudden gender realization has just made me less hostile towards women, so I'm able to see them more sexually rather than as "dumb bitches".

Delivered to this townhouse the other day, and there just so happened to be a very curvy chick out front in a strapless bikini top and very short shorts washing her car. Normally I woulda thought, "Lookit this slut," and turned away. But this time I kept my shades on for a minute (not to be a total creeper) and checked her out. Twice (getting out of my car and getting back in).

I know a lot of people say their preferences changed once they started on T, or that they just gained a buttload of libido, so I'm not really sure what's going to happen once I actually start on T myself.

[King Malachite]

Normally I woulda thought, "Lookit this slut,"

Hahahhahahahahaha that made me laugh!

[Liam]

I really don't know what my sexuality is. Sometimes I'm into guys, sometimes girls, sometimes both, sometimes neither. It's really confusing :/ But I don't know if I could date a cis guy without being way too jealous.

[Lajs]

I really don't know what my sexuality is. Sometimes I'm into guys, sometimes girls, sometimes both, sometimes neither. It's really confusing :/

I'm the same way! I was thinking things might become clearer after T - that certainly seems to be the case with some guys here.

[jackofspades]

I think this is an interesting topic. But I think it differs for everyone. I have a friend on T who I spoke with this about before - if T changes your sexual orientation. He reacted in a disgusted way, which if I didn't know him would piss me off, but I just laughed. He loves girls, straight up. Before T, and years before, I was only occasionally attracted to cis guys and never would have admitted it. Then I started realizing it didn't matter who I was attracted to. I guess I consider myself bi now, if anything, but it's not something I really think about. Lately, I've really been digging on boys, but when I meet nice girls I get just as giddy. Being a cancer, maybe my attractions change with the moon phases   

[ty.to.the.man]

Just thought I'd add my 2 cents; 100% straight. A lot of the transguys I know are more open about their sexuality (in the sense that they'll basically date anyone)
While we're on the topic of who we're interested in.... Ariana Grande and Selena Gomez are my lovers!!! <3

[randomroads]

For what it's worth, I've been noticing attractive PEOPLE more often than I ever have. Doesn't seem to matter if they're male or female, if I like the view I let my eyes linger. A few days ago we went to pick up a kitten (yay!) and there was this really fit chick wearing a bikini top and a towel around her waist (modesty I guess) watering her garden. I watched her as we passed, and then looked over at hubs who is straight, and he gave me a knowing look and said 'I saw that.' I've been so adamant about disliking women as a whole for years because they can be vicious back stabbers. It feels incredibly awkward to get caught checking one out.

The point to my ramble is that I still can't think about touching a woman sexually without getting a skin crawling creepy feeling because it's so gross, but I can relax and enjoy the view without having a negative reaction. I think I'm still 100% gay.

[Bastian]

To confuse anyone following this thread (or simply to demonstrate how sexual attraction is constantly shifting in this day and age) i've swung back to being pretty much 100% gay again. I can appreciate a woman's body and I hate them less but my sexual desires towards them have entirely gone away and once more returned solely to men.

[dpadgett628]

Personally, I find that I am more attracted to women in general. Being in the "male" role has always been something I have loved.

However, if a guy came along that I clicked with, then I would be open to the idea. There's actually a guy I'm talking to now (who happens to be trans as well) that I find absolutely adorable/amazing. I try to avoid labels when it comes to sexuality, but that's just me.