Thanks for the awkward, mom

[FTMDiaries]

I gave my family six months to get used to the fact that I'm transitioning, and then I told them that I don't want to hear the wrong name or pronouns ever again. I said that if they use the wrong ones I will correct them every single time - in public if necessary - and they will be the one looking like a complete idiot who can't tell the difference between a guy and a girl.

I also told them that the fact I'm trans is private and they're privileged to have this info, but they have absolutely no right to discuss it with anyone else.

If they refuse to use the right terms or if they invade your privacy, make them feel uncomfortable about getting it wrong. You'll feel less dysphoria when they do it and they will change their behaviour.

[Alice-blossom]

I gave my family six months to get used to the fact that I'm transitioning, and then I told them that I don't want to hear the wrong name or pronouns ever again. I said that if they use the wrong ones I will correct them every single time - in public if necessary - and they will be the one looking like a complete idiot who can't tell the difference between a guy and a girl.

I also told them that the fact I'm trans is private and they're privileged to have this info, but they have absolutely no right to discuss it with anyone else.

If they refuse to use the right terms or if they invade your privacy, make them feel uncomfortable about getting it wrong. You'll feel less dysphoria when they do it and they will change their behaviour.

Sounds like a 'Terms of Service' agreement, lol.

[Felix]

I only have 11 pairs

I love that you know exactly how many pairs you have.

I started buying men's underwear before I was actually transitioning, but I think people assumed I was getting it for someone else. Or maybe not really assuming anything. I've worked at cash registers and I don't remember thinking people's stuff was very interesting.

[Kevin Peña]

I've worked at cash registers and I don't remember thinking people's stuff was very interesting.

Okay, this was an actual purchase of mine: Teddy bear, spatula, nightie, yogurt, Hello Kitty fork, and Victoria Justice CD. Remember, I look manly. Would you not at least raise an eyebrow if you behind that cash register?

[Liminal Stranger]

Okay, this was an actual purchase of mine: Teddy bear, spatula, nightie, yogurt, Hello Kitty fork, and Victoria Justice CD. Remember, I look manly. Would you not at least raise an eyebrow if you behind that cash register?

Considering where I live, no one would bat an eyelash :3
We've seen it all here. New Yorkers are a jaded people.
...Damn, this is making me want to go out and get some real boxers. I've been wearing pajama shorts as makeshift ones, but I'd like actual ones meant to fit under pants 
I think I've got enough saved up for some pairs, but washing them without getting caught would be a big PITA because our building uses cards to operate the washers and dryers. I'm a minor, so no laundry card for me.

[AdamMLP]

...Damn, this is making me want to go out and get some real boxers. I've been wearing pajama shorts as makeshift ones, but I'd like actual ones meant to fit under pants 
I think I've got enough saved up for some pairs, but washing them without getting caught would be a big PITA because our building uses cards to operate the washers and dryers. I'm a minor, so no laundry card for me.

If you have access to a sink and some washing powder then it's pretty simple to handwash them.  Just chuck in some powder, your underwear and give them a wash.  Make sure you rinse them out properly and wring them, and hang them somewhere warm to dry.  Does the job nicely.

I love that you know exactly how many pairs you have.

I can give you brand, size, colour and percentage cotton as well if you'd like :p

[/hijacking the thread with details of my underwear]

[Liminal Stranger]

Might have to substitute sink with a bathtub and go in search of someplace warm (i.e. not my house), but hey- why not? It'll make me feel better 
Underwear talk aside, my mother makes sure that everyone around us knows my birth name and gender (though I think the name is pretty much indicative of it). My dad seems much more accepting but readily uses pronouns and all where they aren't necessary. I cringe so hard at my name and being referred to as a girl.

[AdamMLP]

Might have to substitute sink with a bathtub and go in search of someplace warm (i.e. not my house), but hey- why not? It'll make me feel better 
Underwear talk aside, my mother makes sure that everyone around us knows my birth name and gender (though I think the name is pretty much indicative of it). My dad seems much more accepting but readily uses pronouns and all where they aren't necessary. I cringe so hard at my name and being referred to as a girl.

Warmth isn't a necessity, my place is not warm at all, apart from a foot from my one and only heater.  I've been known to sleep fully clothed with hat and gloves on and still be up half the night shivering.  Maybe they never dry but just freeze?

Things are tough for us, but I really found getting some underwear helped me.  I always made a point of wearing them to work where I knew I would get permanently read as female -- there's nothing like an apron to show off your curves -- and they just made me feel whole.  No matter how many times people I never knew used my birthname or told me that the last time they saw me was when I was "This high, and such a cute little girl." I knew that I was male, and wearing that underwear felt like sticking up a big fat middle finger to them all.  It was sort of a rebellion against how I'm made to dress and act when I'm there.  Now I just do it for comfort, I've got bigger things to wind me up at work.

[Liminal Stranger]

Warmth isn't a necessity, my place is not warm at all, apart from a foot from my one and only heater.  I've been known to sleep fully clothed with hat and gloves on and still be up half the night shivering.  Maybe they never dry but just freeze?

Things are tough for us, but I really found getting some underwear helped me.  I always made a point of wearing them to work where I knew I would get permanently read as female -- there's nothing like an apron to show off your curves -- and they just made me feel whole.  No matter how many times people I never knew used my birthname or told me that the last time they saw me was when I was "This high, and such a cute little girl." I knew that I was male, and wearing that underwear felt like sticking up a big fat middle finger to them all.  It was sort of a rebellion against how I'm made to dress and act when I'm there.  Now I just do it for comfort, I've got bigger things to wind me up at work.

I'm beginning to think that all my laundry just freezes instead of drying, too. At its worst, there were times when leaving the refrigerator door open actually warmed the apartment, which was just plain pathetic. I get the whole thing too, especially since my dad works at a high school. The kids see me and somehow automatically know I'm his kid, which is irritating beyond relief. No, I am not your teacher's daughter. He doesn't have one of those, okay? He's got a son with chromosomes that seem to have gotten that part confused and decided to be XX instead of XY.
But yeah, I just want some other male clothing as self-assurance.

[Jeatyn]

Okay, this was an actual purchase of mine: Teddy bear, spatula, nightie, yogurt, Hello Kitty fork, and Victoria Justice CD. Remember, I look manly. Would you not at least raise an eyebrow if you behind that cash register?

I think my strangest grocery list was when I was out shopping for the materials to make myself a packer

3 tubs of hairgel, a big pack of condoms, and a pair of tights. Ensue awkward looks when the cashier informed me that the condoms were on special...and I could get a second pack half price. "oh, no thanks, I won't need that many" ... that's right mr cashier, I have a very specific amount of dirtiness to be done involving tights and hairgel

[CursedFireDean]

Things are tough for us, but I really found getting some underwear helped me.  I always made a point of wearing them to work where I knew I would get permanently read as female -- there's nothing like an apron to show off your curves -- and they just made me feel whole.  No matter how many times people I never knew used my birthname or told me that the last time they saw me was when I was "This high, and such a cute little girl." I knew that I was male, and wearing that underwear felt like sticking up a big fat middle finger to them all.  It was sort of a rebellion against how I'm made to dress and act when I'm there.  Now I just do it for comfort, I've got bigger things to wind me up at work.

Same here- they made me feel at least a little bit better about being referred to as a female everywhere.
And then I discovered that men's underwear is so much more comfortable too! Not all ichy like the elastic on women's stuff I got a pair from Target, Evolve brand, that are legit the softest things I have ever put on. I wish I got more than just the 2-pack.

[FullThrottleMalehem]

I have this problem with one of the people I've known for a very long time. While my partner is referring to me as he, they'll step in and just use female pronouns because they are too lazy to make the change. "I'll just forget anyway" is what they say to justify it. So it's going to be really awkward if I'm ever able to get on hormones and have facial hair and a deeper voice and this person is throwing around she's and hers all over the place.

I was never comfortable wearing underwear because it was both uncomfortable and female underwear was just that, female. Then I tried boxer briefs, most amazing comfortable underwear ever and they are masculine. They can also hold a packer well.

[CursedFireDean]

I was never comfortable wearing underwear because it was both uncomfortable and female underwear was just that, female. Then I tried boxer briefs, most amazing comfortable underwear ever and they are masculine. They can also hold a packer well.

'tis exactly why I switched to trunks. Room for a packer, masculine, comfy! All that matters XD

[Liminal Stranger]

I can second this now :3
My dad came over a while ago and misgendered me whilst talking to me about me in the third person. Again, didn't ask for male pronouns because I'm really hoping to at least have him on my side, but still- second person would have been fine. Thanks for the dysphoria, Dad >_>