Out on Facebook

[bethany]

The person in the picture with me is a very good friend of mine. Very supportive and loving. One of my best friends. And I would not want to chance losing that friendship for anything. If anything we are BFF's LOL.

She is actually the one who encouraged me to transition, not that I wouldn't have.

[Tessa James]

You two look happy and relaxed.  We do so need our BFs!  It was my wife who gently got me in to counseling.  Forgive me if it's personal but what's with the "aid" assistant?

[bethany]

No worries Tessa I'm more than happy to answer any question. I have a form of musculay dystrophy and I live in a nursing home.

I love it when people look at the obvious and say something like "God thats got to be so hard on you." and their face drops when I tell them that this is a peice of cake compaired to some of my other issues that I have been dealing with since childhood. So then they may or may not did deeper, but if they do I will tell them that I am TG.  And I say something along the lines of. "Imagine looking into the mirror every day of your life but you never see yourself but some strangers face looking back." 

[Tessa James]

Thank you Bethany.  After coming out I think we generally find it easier to be out and honest about everything?  I eventually came to the conclusion that I was literally from another planet or dimension.  Before meeting more of the LGBTQ crowd I never talked to anyone who felt like I did.  And mirrors, you nailed it!  I was a stranger to myself and knew those eyes, at least, were authentic.  Other "issues" as you note are more significant to them than us.  People tell me they would be more surprised by my turing into a republican than TG.

[bethany]

Your very welcome dear, as I said I'm more than happy to answer any question.

And if anyone would like to be friends on Facebook please ask in private and I will send along my info but then again we chat here so facebook would be a bit redundant.

Opps just saw that I can link to facebook through my profile LOL

[Tessa James]

And thanks too for inspiring me to post a real picture as avatar.  If so many can do it, it must be be ok

[bethany]

I don't know if it's ok or not but I got tired of hiding in the closet in any way, shape, or form. I am who I am.  Besides my closet is to small, I need room for more cloths and shoes. LOL

[Tessa James]

I don't know if it's ok or not but I got tired of hiding in the closet in any way, shape, or form. I am who I am.  Besides my closet is to small, I need room for more cloths and shoes. LOL

You got it Bethany!  that cracked me up about the closet.  I never cared much about shopping for boy stuff but girly stuff?  Oh to die for!  And living in a small house means some man things had to go.  The wardrobe does get more complicated tho?

I changed my picture on facebook too and was rewarded by many friends and only one joker.  In balance so far so good.   Oops it's morning in America.

Gnight

[Shana A]

I don't know if it's ok or not but I got tired of hiding in the closet in any way, shape, or form. I am who I am.  Besides my closet is to small, I need room for more cloths and shoes. LOL

I agree, closets are for clothes! Speaking of which, I need to get rid of all that pesky male clothing to make room for more beautiful outfits 

Z

[bethany]

Here's an interesting twist. My adopted Nana posted about me yesterday, She mentioned both my birth name and Bethany. So in order to stop any confusion I posted the following comment

I think an explanation is in order here so people won't get confused. I am Transgendered. I have just begun my transition. I have recently just come out telling my friends what I have been going through. I live at the same nursing home as Nana and have adopted her as my Grandmother. She is truly one of a kind. Love you Nana.

[Tessa James]

Nice way to recreate family Bethany.  That feels very loving to hear about.  And happy Valentines day to you and all!

[Tessa James]

Well, at the pace the internet and face book work, it did not take long for some troll to hack my picture and literally start to "steal my friends" for what ever purpose?  I had to certify this person was "impersonating" me and FB sent my phone a confirm code and now the troll is "blocked."  This all happened over the space of 10 minutes!  Too techy icky!


                                                                                                                    Warning!!!!!!!!!

                                Traffic and changes are monitored by trolls out there.  Being public comes with risk and while I will not live in fear we do need to be aware.

Other than that it's been a great day for love!

[bethany]

Sorry to hear that Tessa. But very happy that the troll is blocked. I don't understand why people do things like this. But it seems to happen more often than not nowadays.