Hi, Ell,
I have called myself the "Resident Cynic" in many discussions of things metaphysical and spiritual. There are things that i have seen that are unexplained in my world. I am in no way selling anyone on what I believe or don't believe and I am working diligently to keep this post simply a comparison of what I have come to see, believe, or strongly suspect with your statements.
Quotei believe that much regarding metaphysics is self-deception.
Yes, I agree with that. If self-deception wasn't so common there wouldn't be a war anyplace, Iraq or otherwise. No responsible leader starts a war without being self-deceiving in that it can be won with no loss of life. And so it is for some people who believe that metaphysics is the "be-all, end-all, do-all" in this Universe. Too much belief can hinder a reasonable analysis of occurrences and phenomena. There are people who are too other-worldly minded to do very much good in this world. At this point I quote the late President Reagan to Mr. Gorbachev about perestroika: "Trust, but verify." Belief must be subject to individual scrutiny.
There is nothing wrong with having faith in the existence of something or its lack of existence but I feel it necessary to examine, then believe or not believe.
Quotei also feel that many mainstream religions are just full of deceptions
I could not agree more. Enough said.
Quotei do not believe in spirits, either worldly or otherwise.
I do believe in spirits, all over this Universe and in the other Multiverses. That is my personal belief. I believe that the fact that I cannot see something does not mean it doesn't exist. There is an ancient joke that my dad told me. He heard it on the radio, the Edgar Bergen and Charlie McCarthy Show, popular in the 1930s: "Which is farther away (from the U.S.), the moon or Africa. Answer: Africa. Why? On a clear night I can see the moon but I can't see Africa." That little exchange between two ventriloquist dummies, Charlie McCarthy and Mortimer Snerd is more than just a good one-liner. It's a good place for me to start when I question the existence of anything.
Quotebut, having said these cautionary disclaimers, i believe it is true that people can find ways to achieve self-improvement. (i assume that your purpose in this effort is to improve yourself as a person).
i am one who is in great need of self-improvement, both in my interactions with others and especially with developing my own will-power.
Ahhhhh, yes, the will power. It's not the will power that I lack. It's the won't power.
One can improve themselves as a person but it won't work without a purpose, and that purpose must be shared with the world at-large. If it's kept at home in the dresser drawer it's time wasted. May I suggest a book or two that might be useful to you?
"How to Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie This is a wonderful handbook of basic human relations. It doesn't use subterfuge or anything unethical, just common sense.
"Back Off!" by Martha Langelan This is a field manual for understanding gender and sexual harassment and a great guide book to motivations. It has saved my butt many times because I was aware of harassment and others had no idea that I would respond as I did. This one is out of print but it is available from Amazon.
"The Master Key to Riches" by Napoleon Hill This book does not have the prescription to making a lot of money, although its knowledge can't hurt if you're a business owner or aspire to a more pleasurable life.
Again, we are dealing with that which is unseen: knowledge, emotions, beliefs, and geography.
Quotemy approach, as i have mentioned on several other threads on this site, is to try and establish contact with a very remote part of my consciousness. it's belief structures are different than my own:
a) it is extremely tolerant of others (even with hostile opinions) whereas i often am not.
b) it seldom, if ever, gets angry, whereas that is common for me
c) it has a subtle and gentle personality, whereas i am often "in your face"
my goal is to allow this very remote aspect of myself a free hand in the building and re-structuring of my personality, which, i am the first to admit, has some serious flaws.
Good on you! An open mind to self-improvement and concrete, discernible goals are wonderful tools for growth. Please start with the first book that I mentioned above. The first chapter is titled, "If You Want to Gather Honey, Don't Kick-over the Hive."
Quotei will be watching your progress with interest, with the hope that i can learn something from you and others along the way. good luck!
If I can be of any use to you, that would help me in my growth and progress. Please post with me here or send me a PM. I have no belief system to share and I am not an evangelist. I know that what I have seen is a whole lot less than what I haven't seen, and what I can see is worlds less than what is not visible to me.
I bid you be well and happy. I hope that I have said something useful. I am the most cynical about myself.
Wing Walker
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