New here and having some questions

[Mr.X]

Hey guys!

I figured it was time to finally sign up here after reading many posts. So far, this forum has been a great help!
Who am I? I'm a 25 year old trans guy from Holland. Hopefully, within 2 or 3 months, I can start on T and I can hardly wait. It took me over 2 years to get there, so I'm all excited about that.

Now, regarding the questions....I was wondering if any of you had/have trouble relationship wise? I know that I have never been able to get into a relationship, and this is likely due to my body not matching my mind. Yet, I hear about many transsexuals who are married or are having a significant other even before they start the transition process. I was always told that you have to start loving yourself before you are capable of loving someone else, so....how does this work? Am I the only one who never had a relationship before?

Also, related to the former question. What are the odds of finding someone after you transitioned? I mean, it must be hard to find someone you like, and who likes you back and also accept the whole trans thing. After all, we can not....well, perform. Add to that that i'm also gay, which even lowers my chances of finding another guy because there are simply less gay people around. What are you guy's experiences with this?

And totally unrelated to the previous questions....What about height? I'm really short (even for a girl, damnit. And Dutch men are so frigging tall...) and that quite bothers me. Any of you out there who are also very short? How did you handle it cloth wise? And did it cause any trouble to be accepted as a man?

That's it for now! Thanks!

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

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[Liminal Stranger]

Short guy over here too. The tallest I measured was 4'11 with shoes since the doc didn't deduct anything, and the shortest was approximated as 4'9 on a recent test that says my bone age is 17 and implies they're fused (not true according to the orthopedic and the fact that unlike my older friend who outgrew it when their bones fused, I can still dislocate many joints at will). It sucks because when I'm read as male, I'm read as a little boy. T, however, will be of great help to you- a more masculine face and especially facial hair will give you an older look.

I have slight problems my boyfriend and I work through with my dysphoria and his being a teenage boy and wanting to perhaps touch things he shouldn't and the like. He is very understanding of all this stuff, and I'm lucky he's not all that straight or else the situation could have turned sour very fast. If you are starting a relationship pre-transition, then yes, do tell the person. It can be a terminating factor, or it can be something they stand by you to the very end with. If/When you go stealth, then it is entirely up to you on how or when you say it to the person of interest; some guys don't at all, and others will immediately put it out there on the table.

Best of luck, and welcome to the forum!