doesn't address me

[manyquestions]

On a couple of my therapy sessions I notice that after I told him that I was a transsexual he avoided using my birth name which is comforting for me. Although the way we always say good bye to each other at the end with out him calling me by anything feels as though I do not have an identity. Do all therapist follow this protocol with all self proclaimed transsexuals. My first few therapies were very enlightning and I feel that I am discovering more about myself that I did not know previous.

I did not tell him to address me in any way because I feel too embarass to tell him my real name that. I feel as though my male masculanity from society is placing immense fear in me from telling him. Am not even sure if am suppose to be there.

Do any of you have advice on how I can ease my discomfort.

[Blaine]

You should think about something you wouldn't mind him addressing you as and tell him about your discomfort during your next session. Therapy should be a way to help ease some of the feelings brought on by transition, not create new problems. I just asked my therapist to call me by the nickname I used to go by in high school, even though it's feminine and she knew it didn't match the name I plan on taking later on. I hope everything works out for you!