Logic was the mother all hang ups in this mess for me. I tried to reason and use logic. This is not logical. There is no logic in doing this. Sometimes you just have to accept it for what it is. I exist therefore I am. I feel this way, therefore this is how I feel. Trying to sort, dice, slice, compare and rationalize it will only drive you insane. Kate and I spent the better part of two years doing this.
Its like trying to explain "happy". Its a feeling/emotion. How do you explain it with logic? It's something that is or isn't for an individual. It's a feeling of emotion. But how do I know my "happy is the same as 6.5 billion other peoples "happy"? You take it for granted, and take it for what somebody tells you.
The only way I could trust myself was to go back through years of logs/diaries. GID was the forefront of every topic or discussion for the last ten years. Its been the only thing on my mind. I think back from when I was 6,7,8,9,10,11....all through the years. I have always had a problem. I am not well.
I always doubted I could do something about. I have to now...I don't have a choice. I think of all the wasted years. I am scared about the future but it will work out in the end. It always does.
I think accepting myself was more important than trusting. I have always known deep down...I just wasn't ready to accept it. Accepting it means dealing with it. And who in their right mind wants to deal with this? I don't but saying my mind is clear and sound and right is going to start applying the logic phase to this again. This does not deal with absolutes nor logic. If you can abandon those two, you will be on your way. I'm not saying you have to be out of your mind, you just cannot use your mind to try to rationalize it. Use that feeling deep down in your gut. Just under your heart....deep down you know what you want. Stop thinking with your brain and trust your feelings.