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[bobman04]

Hey guys. I'm brand new to this website! So here's the deal.. for the longest time I've felt different and I didn't know why. Well, awhile back I started watching videos on YouTube by someone named minorqback who was transgender. I related to these videos so much and I realized that I'd been repressing my transgender feelings for so long. So much made sense. But then...

After a brief period of many insights, came a period of total fear. I have another big issue in my life. I have social anxiety disorder and I also live with some very strict, critical parents. I was so afraid of coming out to them that I think I ultimately ended up repressing it for another year.

Today I found this new youtuber and I read this article about what happens to transsexual people who don't transition.

I can honestly say I've never been more scared in my life. So I came here, hoping to just talk to people and find some support. Nobody knows about my GID. I'm no gender therapist myself, so I can't say I have it for sure but I really think I do. So anyway, be like the Beatles and HELP! XD

[bobman04]

I'm sorry. I kept saying transgender when I meant transsexual. I'm an obvious newbie. Don't hate me.

[Jennygirl]

It's ok, I interchange those words when talking to people, too. Some prefer transgender to transsexual all the time because being trans is about identity and not sexuality. Personally when I started coming out to people I always used the term transgender, and still do.

And it's common to have delays all throughout the process of coming to realize what it means to you. Combatting those fears head on is why so many transgender people describe "coming out to yourself" as the hardest step of all- myself included.

I always post this article.. reading it was the first thing my gender therapist had me do- and it was oh, so helpful! Perhaps it will help you, too.
http://web.uvic.ca/~ahdevor/14StagesBLOCK.pdf

Welcome to the forums

[Simon]

I'm sorry. I kept saying transgender when I meant transsexual. I'm an obvious newbie. Don't hate me.

No worries. Transgender is just an umbrella term. All Transsexuals are Transgender but not all who are Transgender are Transsexuals.

Welcome to the site and hope you'll find the support you need as well as a friend or two.

It's normal to be afraid. This is probably the biggest step anyone could take in their life but do know that it will get better. It just takes time.

[Ms. OBrien CVT]

Hi bobman04,

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[spring0721]

Welcome bobman04!

Hope you can find some guidance here to help you along your way. The only thing I may suggest is to get in touch with a therapistnear you before coming out to your parents. A therpaist will be able to guide you and help you thru this time.  Good luck!

[DirtyFox]

Welcome bobman04. I think you have come to the right place. Plenty of resources, the people are fantastic, you can basically ask anything. I recommend trying to find a therapist who can help you sort the feelings. I wish you all the best 

[Mujer_Mariposa]

Hi there! I'm new-ish to this site as well, and it's a good to get started. I myself don't know where I fall in the gender spectrum, all I know is that it leans more to the female side. I have known that not all transgender people transition, but transsexuals need it. I am also curious as to what the article said, was it bad?

[Mosaic dude]

Hi bobman04 and Mujer_Mariposa, good to meet you folks.