Coming out to my family

[cartmonkey23]

Well, today is the day.  Myfamily is having a gathering for the memorial day weekend today.  I have decided and am ready to come out to my family.  I had wanted to do it last weekend but it was not the time nor the place because it was my little cousins b day party so I just had a great time with the kids.  Anyway but today.....the whole family will be there and I think its a great opportunity to come out.  The only one that I am not ready to tell is my mom.  I know...you all may think how is that.  But my mom flipped...not just got angry but actually flipped out and went into the hospital the first time I came out to her as a lesbian.  I am not ready to deal with that.  She is going through some stuff of her own.  She is depressed and makes me feel guilty for getting ahead in life.  I may only be a co....but I have come a long way in five years.  I have grown up and gotten a good job....I have a wonderful relationship with a woman who is accepting of my being a trans man.  She has been there for me..and is still there for me...she still wants to marry me.  I have bought a house...which my mom has and never will have.  She takes advantage of my good heart and only calls when she needs money...and if I tell her I dont have it...or anything other then yes she cries and makes me feel guilty.  She is a selfish woman...and in the past I have given in to her...but that does not happen anymore.   I dont feel I need to tell her to go through my transition....I have alot of people in my life who support me and accept me...and I dont need her accetance...I believe I can go through this without her.  Anyway enough rambling....I will let you know how it goes today.  Just as a side note....I have been out as a lesbian for almost ten years...I came out at 18...and now at the age of 27...I have finally found who I really am.  I have never felt better in my life.  I feel comfortable for the first time in my own skin.  I think he was always there....but in the back on my mind.  Now that I have brought it to the front of my mind...and realized this....I can be who I always should have been.....Jesse instead of Jessica.

[J.T.]

hmm... well good luck!  I hope it goes well.  Who knows, maybe your mom will be overjoyed to have a son in a "traditional" relationship?  She is bound to find out anyway, it may just be better to come straight from your mouth.

How did you come out as lesbian and are you doing it differently this time?

[Ms.Behavin]

Best of luck Jesse,  Sounds like your day will be intersting.  Hope all goes well for you.

Beni 

[Robyn]

Hope it went well.

Robyn