Respecting Full Time Alternatives

[GendrKweer]

I always tend toward letting others do what makes them happy/what they must do in order to get by. Life can be tough even if you have it all; if you are less fortunate in some ways (not passable, living in a dangerous area/country, not having a good job or a lot of money, meaning if you lose your job, you'll be skrewed, etc), I will not judge you if you have to drag in work or social situations. If you are transgender but you cannot express it outwardly, then that's your business and right, and you'll get nothing from me but my blessing.

Personally, I move between a very liberal city and country and a very homophobic country twice a year, plus a lot of travel to inhospitable countries in between. Since I am not (and am not interested in) 100% passing, which is what I would require in order to be physically safe, and I am not willing to curtail my travels (as opposed to moving to say, san fran, and letting it all hang out as I want all the time), I compromise and get back in male drag when I have to. I know what I am on the inside, which is a full time woman who sometimes has to drag as a male. To be looked askance at that choice by a 100% passable transgendered girl is as silly as if I were to suggest to that same girl she's not doing it right because she can't afford her SRS surgery whereas I could, and did.

[JoanneB]

Also, maybe it's just a phrase you're using but, why are you "keen to promote"  other people half transitioning? I don't even know what you mean by "part-time"? Can someone be a part time diabetic? Are some people more trans than others? Absolutely. Transsexuals are more transsexual, transgender people are more transgender, crossdressers are more crossdresserish, drag queens are more drag queenie. That's why people came up with and self identify with these terms.

THerefore a "Real Diabetic" is exactly what?

THere are many non insulin dependant diabetics out there. It is kept under control by being careful with your diet. So by your rationale they aren't really diabetic. By the same logic, even if they only need insulin occassionally.

A TG, by extension from 3-4 y/o or whenever the first inkling of TS feelings come to them are not TSs if the do not transition to full time. But wait, how is it really diangonsed? WPATH has several classifications for transexuals as well as transgenders. Where do you draw the line? Personal circumstances like being a kid under parents control. Or, not able or wanting to follow the full transition route for other religious, familial or personal reasons later in life. Or trying damn hard not to let the dyphoria control their life, much like a diabetics, for decades untill a point comes you need some relief, or the occasional shot of insulin.

[KelKel]

My personal opinion on this matter is that I know who I am.  I cannot imagine living life as anyone else but me.  Sure there was a transition period but it was just that; a transition from one to another.  The thing is,  I didn't change WHO  I am and can never change my past. Pulling off my previous experience does not make me in any way "less  transitioned" and therefore  "part time". On the contrary,  I think it makes you  MORE  transitioned to incorporate ALL of your life experiences into your new role.  With that said,  I am a woman who can fix her own car when it breaks and can build just about anything and loves to get out and get dirty in nature but most importantly can do it all without sacrificing who she is in doing so. 
I do not want to come across as looking down on anyone or saying that they are not  "trans"  enough.  I just cannot fathom saying that I have reached my goal and yet have to live 2 different lives.  This is fine during the transition process but I can't see it being a fulfilling goal in and of itself.  BUT, and this is very important,  these are just my thoughts.  I cannot pretend to know the reasonings or motivations of others and just because I do not accept something for myself, does NOT mean I cannot accept it in others.  To each their own. 

[Joanna Dark]

I don't even know what you mean by "part-time"? Can someone be a part time diabetic? Are some people more trans than others? Absolutely. Transsexuals are more transsexual, transgender people are more transgender, crossdressers are more crossdresserish, drag queens are more drag queenie. That's why people came up with and self identify with these terms.

Yeah, I agree with Isabelle. You really can't be a part-time transsexual. After awhile on HRT, especially if it effects you well, you pass a point of no return where you're full-time whether you want to be or not. You can't just turn it off and go back to being a boy or man if you want to. You can try, but more then likely, the world at large will still view as female. That is the point, isn't it?

[Lorri Kat]

Sad....  If alienation and discrimination from society wasen't enough to deal with.  Some are forced to fight within their own group and belittled within it because they have not attained some 'goal' or physical change due to medications or surgery.  "your not really 'blank' because''  ... (sic).   It's no wonder  Tansgender rights are ten years behind Gay and Lesbians.   Ones mind is who and what one is irrespective of physiology, any other changes effected are nothing more then icing on the cake.  None in the TG spectrum are more or less relevant from my viewpoint.  To me a Transsexual is someone who feels they are in the wronge physical body period.  Pre, post or Non-op makes no difference. 

Isn't there enough intolerance already out there for us without having to deal with more of it here!?!   

[Devlyn]

"Isn't there enough intolerance already out there for us without having to deal with more of it here!?!"

Indeed, there is. Susan's Place is where everyone can come for respect,  the question of respecting others needn't be asked. This thread is locked.