Susan's Place Logo

News:

Based on internal web log processing I show 3,417,511 Users made 5,324,115 Visits Accounting for 199,729,420 pageviews and 8.954.49 TB of data transfer for 2017, all on a little over $2,000 per month.

Help support this website by Donating or Subscribing! (Updated)

Main Menu

Anyone else feel so friggin ugly sometimes?

Started by Lara the Lover and the Fighter, September 17, 2013, 12:27:33 AM

Previous topic - Next topic

0 Members and 1 Guest are viewing this topic.

Ciara

I think we should never think in terms of "ugly". We are all beautiful. When you look in the mirror you see a body, albeit a man's body. But when you look beyond the body there is a beautiful, feminine, and kind woman within you. We are all afflicted with these male bodies, but that does not take from our beauty.

Even cis women sometimes have have difficulty with their looks. They sometimes strive to look outwardly "fabulous" especially as they get older. I have never seen an ugly woman. A woman's true beauty comes from within and that is why we are all so fortunate to be the beautiful women that we are.

The lady you met in Wal Mart is a perfect example of true feminine beauty. I hope we can all live our lives to become be as beautiful as she.

Ciara.
I don't have a gender issue.
I love being a girl.



  •  

Xhianil

Well i am ugly, even for a male, i just remeber how I'll be in the future and get through it the best i can.
  •  

Eva Marie

Women come in all shapes and sizes and some even have lots of "male" features.

When I start feeling down about my own features I just take the time to observe the women that I see around me, and I notice that none of them are perfect. Very, very few women have the same looks or the same figures as the women that you see on TV or on the covers of fashion magazines. That's Madison Avenue working to sell an image of perfection that is unattainable. They use Photoshop to "fix up" the images that they print.

One thought that helps to ground me is when I realize that other people do not see the same things that I see when I look at myself. We just can't undo the mental images that we have stored in our brains from years of seeing ourselves in the mirror a particular way. I still see a male face looking back at me when I look in the mirror in girl mode, but I'm constantly told by other people that I look like any other woman and that they wouldn't even notice Eva out in public based on how she looks. And I've got a large torso, large hands, large forearms, a thick neck, and linebacker shoulders - the same as many of you have.

Our physical looks are certainly important, but our real beauty comes from the feminine and caring woman that's inside of us.
  •  

Shantel

Good thoughts about reality over idealism Eva Marie! I look at women shopping at the mall and it tells me that and more, some cis women I end up feeling sorry for!
  •  

ErinM


Quote from: Ciara on September 18, 2013, 08:05:59 AM
I think we should never think in terms of "ugly". We are all beautiful. When you look in the mirror you see a body, albeit a man's body. But when you look beyond the body there is a beautiful, feminine, and kind woman within you. We are all afflicted with these male bodies, but that does not take from our beauty.

Even cis women sometimes have have difficulty with their looks. They sometimes strive to look outwardly "fabulous" especially as they get older. I have never seen an ugly woman. A woman's true beauty comes from within and that is why we are all so fortunate to be the beautiful women that we are.

The lady you met in Wal Mart is a perfect example of true feminine beauty. I hope we can all live our lives to become be as beautiful as she.

Ciara.

There is so much truth to this.

Thinking of oneself as ugly is only self defeating.  I'll admit that I'm not even close to being were I want to be in terms of looks and I'm often prone to bouts of self pity, but I try not let myself believe that I'm "ugly".

As a child my family and I would refer to my left eye as my "good" eye and my right as my "bad" eye. Finally when I was about 12 one person asked why I called it bad.  He went on ti explain that an eye can't be "good" or "bad" but labelling it that dies nothing but make my feel bad.

As for never seeing an "ugly" woman?  There has only been one exception - the wife of a friend of mine. Yes she could be described as "homely" but societies definition of beauty, but that's not it. What makes her "ugly" is her general negative attitude towards everything and almost everyone.
  •  

Bijou

I have my days of feeling unattractive. Especially with my voice not being where I want it. I get ma'amed but I'm just not where I want to be, and only time can change that. I never feel ugly though. To me "ugly" encompasses more than just looks, and I'm a pretty good person.
  •  

Lesley_Roberta

I'm envious, envious of the fat girl walking down the street because she has a large rack. Sure she likely has issues plaguing her, but those hooters screeeeeeam out female. They're likely way too big, likely wrecking her back, but, well girls have breasts and men don't. And they sway and bounce like the real thing, not something artificially arrived at.

That one annoying anatomical feature is so telling and so completely asserting, that a casual observer couldn't care less about the rest of the view. Clearly not a man.

So many people care so little about their appearances in public. But so many times, it seems even so unlikely too, the very unlikely very unpretty lass, and she's pushing a baby stroller. Well some guy must love her eh :) It's not the end of the world to look the opposite of 'hot'. And then there is my sister. I have seen men act clearly like idiots near her. She's one of the beautiful people. Alas, all the men she has known, something always happens eh. They don't work out. 50 years of looking hot, and she hasn't got the ring yet.

Looks won't make you successful, but, dang it, a set of boobs sure make a difference in being mistaken for female.

I can of course understand the problem of the FTM crowd not liking having the damned things I guess.
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
  •  

Jennygirl

ATTN population!

Subject: LIFE

Message: Everyone has issues! Welcome to life, humans!

:D :D :D

Basically what I'm saying is... No matter how well you pass, no matter how "hot" you are, no matter how rich/successful/famous you are, no matter how much money you saved on your car insurance... Life is full of issues that we cannot predict. Every single person on the planet has different things to deal with regardless of the conditionals.

Our best bet is to accept our lives as they are and move on as best we can- at whatever pace / style seems appropriate and effective. There will never be a life without challenges that lie ahead, and that's also kind of the beauty of it all. It's what makes us better, stronger, and more equipped to handle whatever life throws at us next.

I'd say, as trans people, we'll end up being some pretty darn strong human beings in the end- and I'm already excited to be on the road heading in that direction.
  •  

Lara the Lover and the Fighter

Quote from: Jennygirl on September 19, 2013, 01:36:57 AM
ATTN population!

Subject: LIFE

Message: Everyone has issues! Welcome to life, humans!

:D :D :D

Basically what I'm saying is... No matter how well you pass, no matter how "hot" you are, no matter how rich/successful/famous you are, no matter how much money you saved on your car insurance... Life is full of issues that we cannot predict. Every single person on the planet has different things to deal with regardless of the conditionals.

Our best bet is to accept our lives as they are and move on as best we can- at whatever pace / style seems appropriate and effective. There will never be a life without challenges that lie ahead, and that's also kind of the beauty of it all. It's what makes us better, stronger, and more equipped to handle whatever life throws at us next.

I'd say, as trans people, we'll end up being some pretty darn strong human beings in the end- and I'm already excited to be on the road heading in that direction.

Awesome!  :D
  •  

FrancisAnn

Jenny, Well said. Most of us received way too much T stuff early in life. We had no real choice in the matter. All any of us can do it to accept our normal feminine nature & try to correct & improve our bodies to balance with our correct gender. Some of us are very lucky it seems but most of us have a difficult task in changing the larger type bodies we were "given".

My best to all my girl friends as we change & improve to the best possible level.

I'm OK/fair with a passable type body & face but it has always been very hard to live full time as normal person. Way too much facial & body hair. I just hate it!!!

Anyway good luck to all girl friends.
mtF, mid 50's, always a girl since childhood, HRT (Spiro, E & Fin.) since 8-13. Hormone levels are t at 12 & estrogen at 186. Face lift & eye lid surgery in 2014. Abdominoplasty/tummy tuck & some facial surgery May, 2015. Life is good for me. Love long nails & handsome men! Hopeful for my GRS & a nice normal depth vagina maybe by late summer. 5' 8", 180 pounds, 14 dress size, size 9.5 shoes. I'm kind of an elegant woman & like everything pink, nice & neet. Love my nails & classic Revlon Red. Moving back to Florida, so excited but so much work moving
  •  

JenSquid

  •  

Judiana

sure, i think the road of being a Trans, is very special and pure but there are some catches to overcome,
my country is transfobe in general, so i'm hesitant to go outside as Judiana, so my personal balance being me is a difficult one... Being J and Judiana is hard, and i cant express myself in the way i want.

i'm hopelesly stuck in toughts about what will happen if i change to Judiana, and that is a exausting way of living my life at the moment...
the sheer joy and happyness to be Judiana is overpowered by my lack of safety even in my own home, closing the curtains, turn off phones and doorbells
even then i cant relax so my mind is bleeping around with me al the time.. so then i change clothing again to J again sadly
long story short.... Being a Trans is difficult and very special at the same time... i feel pretty and plain ugly at the same time... and moor ugly then pretty
  •  

Alice Rogers

I'll never be stunning, but I'll settle for being ME, NOT the construct I wore over the miserable and hidden me that I had to endure before.

Be strong, I was never a particularly good looking male, and that's not a good starting point for my girly side!

Alex
"I would rather be ashes than dust!
I would rather that my spark should burn out in a brilliant blaze than it should be stifled by dry-rot.
I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet.
The function of man is to live, not to exist.
I shall not waste my days trying to prolong them.
I shall use my time." Jack London
  •