I think I am androgynous...

[Dace]

I'm Dace, I'm 19 years old and I have never fully identified as my biological sex (female). People have always said I'm manly and not girly at all. I've been trying to explain to people that I feel like I cannot be identified as either one or the other but nobody will take me seriously. I don't understand how many people have this issue so I've joined this forum hoping to find some answers. I hate all my feminine features but I don't want to transition to male.
If anyone has any advice just generally  how to explain it to people and how common it is to be like this that would be very helpful. Even a useful link to another forum thread or website.
Thank you.

[ativan]

Hi Dace

We take you very seriously here.
There are lots of people who have come and gone from this section of Susan's.
And there are those of us who hang around on a regular and occasional basis.
So, yah, there are lots of us.
It seems that non-binary people are becoming more obvious and 'out of the closet'.
Right now, the best advice I can give you is to look through the topics here.
Some are silly, just because we can, others are very serious and informative.
You'll find a lot of similarities with most, parallels with others.
There are pages of topics that go back quite a few years, the newer ones have of course better info.
But you'll also find some great people in the older topics, also.
Look around, ask questions, don't be afraid to 'restart' old topics, and we are a friendly bunch here for the most part.
There should be a moderator coming along to do the meet and greet and fill you in on some stuff.
Glad to see you made it here!
Ativan

[Jamie D]

Hi, Dace.  Said moderator has arrived.  I identify as "bi-gendered."

Life at age 19 is difficult enough with having gender/sexuality issues filtering everything.  I was in college at 19, and sought out a campus psychiatrist.  I remember one thing he said to me that has stayed with me all these years, "You are what you are."

Avoiding grief has a lot to do with self-acceptance.  I have never been totally comfortable living life in my birth gender assignment, but I have been able to cope.  While coping, I have been able to learn more, especially with the help of my understanding friends here, like Ativan 

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[Dace]

Thanks a lot, I will lurk for a while, I have issues communicating and being centre of attention due to my asperger's so this was quite difficult. Thank you for your kind words so far, I look forward to becoming part of this community and I'm extremely elated to have found others who are in similar positions. Thank you for the links I shall review them now.

My main issues are that people might feel like I've left it too late to become serious about my slightly different gender identification, I've always been comfortable with my sexuality (pansexual) and my boyfriend is very accepting and understanding. I don't know if it's a good idea to talk to someone I know or whether I should just not let it become a big thing and carry on as normal.