RLE...Is it really that important ?

[Carrie Liz]

Agent_J, please, never be shy to post about your experiences with full honesty. And heck, please don't spare the details either on what led up to it and why you feel it was right or wrong. Because there are a LOT of pre-op trans-girls out there who are trying to figure out whether SRS is right for them or not. And for many, it really is a wrong decision. So please, by all means, post. If I'm one of the ones that it's not right for, I sure as hell would rather get as much information about the possibility beforehand rather than having regrets afterward. And if I'm one of the ones that it's right for, than seeing the differences between my story and yours will definitely help to strengthen my resolve. Hearing both sides of the story, both from those who are happy with it as well as those who have regrets, is VERY important. It's a life-altering decision that is not to be taken lightly, so I sure would like to make absolute sure that it's right before I consider it.

[Agent_J]

No not at all...Just saying due to the incompetent nature of the mental and medical health 'professionals' you had to deal with, instead of a "Better quality of life and mental well being" (which is suppose to come after gender affirming surgery "G.A.S"), you (so it would seem) judging by your posts are  living a nightmare...

I wouldn't say a nightmare, but it's a bad dream, at least.

Did you mention before that you would have been happy staying non-op ?

I believe I have. I never said it to my providers as they had long made it clear that option was Not Acceptable. To them, that's inherently a mistake, worse than never transitioning or detransitioning. They realized I was too happy and comfortable being me in my first year of RLE (and directly said that as the "reason" my RLE was extended - that it went "too well.")

[Anatta]

I wouldn't say a nightmare, but it's a bad dream, at least.

I believe I have. I never said it to my providers as they had long made it clear that option was Not Acceptable. To them, that's inherently a mistake, worse than never transitioning or detransitioning. They realized I was too happy and comfortable being me in my first year of RLE (and directly said that as the "reason" my RLE was extended - that it went "too well.")

Kia Ora Agent,

So what options do you have ?

What is it you feel  you 'need' from a counsellor ?

Is it reassurance that things will eventually work out (things will be alright) ? 

Metta Zenda

[Agent_J]

Guidance toward a way to be okay, and, hopefully, even happy with my post-op body, and to stop feeling that it is disfigured and revolting.