Some silly girl advice?

[CursedFireDean]

So I'm in need of some silly advice about a girl I like

On Saturday, I went to an LGBT and straight/cisgender allies dance that was being held at a nearby school that had invited other schools to attend. There was a girl I met there and we got along great. She seemed pretty into me and started dragging me around with her and all of her friends, she even did a slow dance with me (correcting where I should put my hands-I had no idea XD) At the end, we talked a lot and I learned she was the president of her school's GSA. When I had to leave, she gave me a hug and kissed me on the top of my head. When I got home I sent her a facebook friend request and she accepted, then we chatted for a short bit before she fell asleep.

Anyways, that's backstory I guess. So here's the question.
Since I had the last words in our last conversation, I figured I should wait for her to initiate a conversation. If she doesn't message me, when would be a good time for me to message her instead? I don't want to seem clingy or anything, but I'm also eager to talk to her again.

I feel so silly asking this but... I genuinely don't know ^^;

[cezcal20]

couple days up to a week

[Nygeel]

Three days.

[Simon]

When you feel like doing it. Don't bug her to death of course but I will tell you that girls like honesty and dislike games.

[Liminal Stranger]

I agree with Nygeel, three days sounds about good. Any fewer and she'll figure you're desperate and toy around with you, girls can be cruel like that if they know they have that kind of power over a guy. I mean, the kid who became my boyfriend sent me a message over Youtube (yes, youtube, that is how we first talked long-distance) the night after we met for the first time, and literally sent 87 text messages when I relented and sent him one to give him my number, breaking my phone with some of the nerdiest pick-up lines I have ever heard. Wait...I don't count as a girl, never mind. You get the point though, even though ours wasn't a typical case

But hey, congrats! She sounds nice, awesome bonus that she's the head of the GSA at her school. Good luck with her.

[Adam (birkin)]

When you feel like doing it. Don't bug her to death of course but I will tell you that girls like honesty and dislike games.

I'm with Simon. None of the hard and fast guidelines for relationships or getting the eye of people I'm interested in has ever really applied. All people and circumstances are different and at the end of the day, it's best to just lay it all out and do what's natural. If the relationship progresses you'll have to do that anyway.

[Ethan]

When you feel like doing it. Don't bug her to death of course but I will tell you that girls like honesty and dislike games.

I second him as well..

[sneakersjay]

I would wait, too.  I used to be one who sent messages (not texts) and was guilty of too many too soon.  I didn't perceive them as being excessive (and it truly wasn't overboard).  But after I was on the receiving end of too many messages/texts (in the same quantity and vein that I myself was guilty of!) I found it was truly off-putting and people came across as needy or desperate and that made them unattractive.  Keep busy, think of her, but I would definitely wait before sending her another message. At least wait until she responds, but DO NOT reply immediately as if you were waiting to send the second you got her message.  I ruined countless (haha I rarely dated) potential relationships because of it.

If you really like her, show some restraint. 


Jay

[Nero]

Well, do you mean you just said the last thing in the conversation or did you say something like a question or continuing of the conversation she should have replied back to? If the latter, wait a bit. If the former, I don't see a reason to wait, as long as you're casual about it and just send one message. But even if it's the latter, you said she fell asleep so that's probably why she didn't answer. A casual message today wouldn't hurt.
I'm with Simon. I think the way you go about this is more important than any specific rules or anything. But also, yeah don't send 80 messages lol. Sending one noncommital message probably looks more nonchalant than waiting. You know, don't act like it's a big deal and worry about making the wrong move (aside from no repetitive messages of course) and you'll come off better.

At least wait until she responds, but DO NOT reply immediately as if you were waiting to send the second you got her message. 

This too. I think being cool and casual about it means not immediately replying, and also not waiting too long between replies which can make it seem like a bigger deal. So, a balance there. You don't want her thinking you're waiting on purpose or that you're not interested.

I would wait, too.  I used to be one who sent messages (not texts) and was guilty of too many too soon.  I didn't perceive them as being excessive (and it truly wasn't overboard).  But after I was on the receiving end of too many messages/texts (in the same quantity and vein that I myself was guilty of!) I found it was truly off-putting and people came across as needy or desperate and that made them unattractive.  Keep busy, think of her, but I would definitely wait before sending her another message. At least wait until she responds, but DO NOT reply immediately as if you were waiting to send the second you got her message.  I ruined countless (haha I rarely dated) potential relationships because of it.

If you really like her, show some restraint. 


Jay

This sounds like me after I've been a total jerk and offended the person. A zillion 'sorry, I didn't mean it' pleas.  Took a long time for me to realize that approach doesn't work. 

[eVan24]

Well I agree with Not-so Fat Admin. It's all about how you do it not necessarily when. Slightly different circumstance but same basic concept on trying to not be creepy is how I started to really get to talk to my now fiancee. We met through facebook (actually it was an app called yoville) and at one point she gave me her myspace (back when myspace was cool). In her profile she had her AIM address and I knew that it was linked to her phone so if I messaged her she would get it on her phone. So instead of just saying hi or something lame, I just messaged her "I'm hungry, what should I have for dinner" or something along those lines. My theory is, if you are going to send a message, make sure it's one that requires a response, make it unique, and most of all... make her laugh.