Ok, to not start a new thread, got done on reading Rory Miller's excellent book called, "Facing Violence". Its like no other book on what precipitates violence and what types of violence men and women will encounter. I strongly suggest anybody who wants to understand "real violence" and how to avoid it, get it. Basically he explains how violence starts.
Men usually encounter social violence, women usually encounter asocial violence.
Social violence is when there is an audience to commit an audience, usually a MD, GMD, SSS, EBD, or a hybrid/combo of it.
Asocial violence is usually when there is no audience, no witnesses and happens in a short timespan, predator attacks.
The Monkey dance usually starts when two males encounter each other and one feels disrespected because of
1. Rule enforcement, or broke the rules.
2. Hierarchical rivalry, or feeling trumped by a underling.
3. Territorial issues, or coming into my territory.
See this often in male prisons, but aso happens in the corporate world or the streets, but differently. The Monkey Dance can also be started due to a combination of these above factors.
Group Monkey Dance is when a group of men commits violence due to the three broken rules above, also see this often in prisons, but also happens in regular life, be it the corporate world or the streets.
SSS or Status Seeking Show is when a lower member of a group shows other higher ranking members of a group, how tough he is by committing a violent act, happens alot in prisons, but can also be seen in the corporate world or streets.
EBD or Educational Beat Down, when one higher ranking member teaches a lower ranking member of a wrong done, can be as simple as a headsmack by a father to a son for doing or saying something wrong, or it could be a prison/street.corporate fight by a younger member of a gang/group and a older/senior member of a group being taught a lesson.
Usually men don't like to walk away from fights, especially if women are close by, men think it means they are cowards, but women think its the right think to do, its taught to them not to walk away by the media and peer/social groups and can even be hardwired, as in protecting the flock.
Asocial violence can be committed to women and men but usually happens to women more often, due to asocial violence is committed by predators, such as serial killers, serial rapists, serial murderers or a combo/hybrid of the formers.
Two kinds of predators.
Resource predator wants just your monkey, car, jewelry or something of value, and then will leave with no harm done to you, usually a mugger, thief, theft for money or to feed a habit, or drug habit or other dire neccesity, can even be a father/mother stealing to feed their children/child.
Process predator commit the act of violence for just the sake of the act, it means you are the target and there is no negotiation for it or you.
Predators in general need privacy and time to committ the act, therefore you offer no privacy or time, meaning you stick to large social groups or gatherings and you offer no time to commit the crime, you harden the target or you make it apparent that for you to be taken down, its going to cost alot of effort on his part, meaning taking lots of time. Process predators you fight for your life, period. Resource predators you give your valuables, to survive.
Two basic types of tactics used by the predators,
1. Charm blitz, meaning they will use their social skills or charm to then segregate you and use the blitz attack, ala Ted Bundy.
2. Attack blitz, meaning they will use surprise, overwhelming force and violence to submit you.
Process predators are chameleons, or sociopaths, they can be anybody, since they feel no remorse for their crimes, they can be doctors, lawyers, engineers, janitors, dads, sons, you'd never suspect them. Process predators can also be women, ala Aileen Wournors, but exceedingly rare, per evidence so far.
Lucia,
My other 2 cents.
