So today it is a dinner gathering at sister in laws. They were not able to gather for Easter, and see no problem doing the dinner this weekend, even though, well you know, this is NOT Easter any more. The bunny is already gone for the year, and Jesus has left the building.
This is now merely Saturday April 04 2013 and has no significance at all.
Personally, I think if you miss an event, well, you missed it get over it there will always be next year.
But I never pass up a turkey dinner, and that is really the only reason I am going.
Buuuuuut I am going and I am going as me.
The wife got brave and told her sister about 'me' the other day. And as I make no effort to hide it she knows that was always possible. Hey I'm not going to brag or carry a sign eh. People find out when they do, and never if I am not actually in their presence and in need of an explanation.
The sister was like 'oh wow' if I have my wife's comment correct.
But her husband is a Pentecostal Christian. Nothing specifically important about the distinction. We got married in his church some long time ago
My only real knowledge of their slant on Christian is I didn't care for the misogynist slant of all the marriage class questions I had to go through. I'm not saying the entire Pentecostal Christian crowd is like how this church felt, but they sure were.
I have no idea how he's going to greet being told his brother in law is his sister in law.
But I do recall he's been a bit odd in the past. There was a past incident.... parenting thing.
He likes to say grace before meals, and I have often prompted him to do so. Hey I don't hate the guy nor his need to promote his faith before dinner. I'm just being polite.
But I do find myself wondering.
The wife asked me, rather concerned like, if I was planning to wear my jewellery to the dinner.
I told her, I was and I had no plans to pretend I was someone I wasn't. It's a small town I told her, no one hides forever. He can find out now for all I care. Aside from two daughters of my niece that are still quite small, everyone else is adult age and can make their own choices. The thing is, the kids are just that all grown and also in most cases have moved away. Once it was easy to gather the wife's side for a meal. It was a large group and a lot of kids. Now they have spouses and lives and they live in some cases no where near by either. Dinners now are harder to arrange and often not even on the correct calendar date. Not as much trouble finding a seat either.
I will be me when I go today. I will have had a nice bath, I will smell nice, and I hope look presentable, and wearing my favourite (ok currently only) jewellery. My hair is rapidly getting a lot longer and not even remotely like I used to wear it (atypically male and short). I carry a purse, and it sure is a purse. Nope it is NOT a man bag.
I see no reason to think anything bad is going to happen. I am not going to make him a villain until he does it himself.
I plan to do nothing odd, no odd actions, no attention grabbing behaviour. But uncle Les is not going today.
They might do a slight nod to my birthday with a card. They frequently limit that to dinners and it is often a group birthday with several who have had one not far off. Mine was end of March.
I'm not going to say or do anything to correct incorrect cards ie not going to mention it should be happy birthday aunt Lesley.
Heck if they can't connect the dots, not my problem eh.
But I do hope I am not posting about some manner of mangled result later tonight.
I am not weak willed in this area.
If someone acts rudely, I WILL just get up and leave.
Won't bother me in the slightest.
I'll be pissed and hurt of course. But I doubt I will make a scene. I hope I am not dumb enough to make a scene.
