My insanity and trans guy problems! Help!

[AndyBCM]

Okay so I've got a really close knit group of friends. (I've changed the names for this rant lol)

We do everything absolutely even together including going out every weekend and Wednesday nights.

Our group originally consisted of:

Me: A  gay trans guy
Darrell: My best friend and gay cis guy
Emmett: Darrell's boyfriend
Amy: A cis lesbian
Sarah: A cis lesbian
Nicole: A lesbian trans woman

However after years of being the best group ever! Lol Darrell and Emmett broke up. So Emmett no longer spends much/any time with us any more at all. Its an awkward situation involving cheating and broken engagements and other messy things so unfortunately staying friends hasn't really worked out.

Then over a month ago Darrell immigrated to New Zealand. We miss him but it's great for him!

So basically it's just Me, Amy, Sarah and Nicole left. I love them all so much but I've noticed when I'm with the group and since its now all girls I never pass and am treated as a girl (I'm a no hormones/ops kind a guy).  On my own I pass quite regularly, always have.
Basically though were this causes the most problems is going out. Because always go to the gay bars/clubs (Straight bars are scary lol) we're seen as a group of lesbians hitting the town for the night that also want to met other lesbians. A couple of girls have even hit on me. I'm not anti-girl or anything its just its hard and painful enough trying to find guys who'll even look at me as it is and always has been.

Also since the girls outweigh the guys and that Darrell isn't here to get his way in relation to which club we go to we've even started going to lesbian nights.

Don't get me wrong I love my friends and everything but I was never one of those guys who was a part of the lesbian community before coming out. Most of my friends/things I did have always centred around the gay male community. But now if I'm 100 percent
honest with myself and not being PC about it I'm all of a sudden I'm being forced upon something I'm not comfortable with.

I know all I can really do is grin and bare it and just enjoy my friends company where ever we are but the sudden undermining of my identity I've had for years upon years is heard to handle in some ways.

My friends see me as a bloke and give out about how much I'm a man all the time and they totally get the trans stuff and everything. So that sound be enough but for some reason Like I said I think there's nothing I can do to clam my fussiness.

Thanks for listening to my rant though. It was good sharing it with someone. Also if you have any insight into any of this or heck even if you have coping mechanisms let me know! Thanks in advance!

[Lesley_Roberta]

Just proof that the boring hetero crowd are not the only ones suffering from convoluted triangles and weird relationship quagmires.

I've had to deal with more than a few cases where friend A and friend B are both good friends, they just like me but hate each other. And then friend C is so totally different from friend D, that I can't get together with both as they have conflicting interests that also don't match up with friends A or B as well.

Then I add that I am no longer the guy they knew, and well it just really mangles everything.

Before it was sort of easy to gather them all if the occasion merited it like a really big event (such as turning 50). But now, well some of them just can't cope with the idea of Les being Lesley and wearing jewellery, smelling pretty and I stopped using hermaphrodite role game characters to justify wanting to be female like in my game sessions as a player.

Some of the guys have wandered off for one reason or another, and it has sure left large holes in my ability to enjoy what was once so easy to do.