A small coming out and short intro

[DeniseD]

Wanted to introduce myself and talk about a minor coming out. I'm mtf in my '60s, I came out to my late wife (she passed away in Sept. 2012) a few years back and just like she accepted/supported my crossdressing, she was fine with me being anywhere on the TG scale that I wanted to go as long as I did not have SRS (though she was OK with FFS if I wanted it). And I was delighted with her acceptance and totally OK with her position on this. So I basically continued to live totally in stealth mode except at home and had never talked to any other people in my life about this except for a couple very good online friends. Yesterday I was doing some home repairs at my step-daughters house (I'm a carpenter by trade), we've had a pretty good relationship in the 17 years that I was with her mother (she still calls me Dad). I've thought for a while about coming out to her as I felt she would be OK with it, so I found a little courage somewhere and told her about my gender issues and where I was with them, indeed she was totally accepting and gave me a big hug! It was such a huge relief to be able to share this with someone in my life and to be accepted, it is but a small victory in my journey, but a victory none the less! I just had to share this somewhere as I'm extremely happy about this.
DeniseD

[Jamiep]

Denise, welcome to this amazing forum & awesome supportive family. Coming out to family especially, those that accept your goals of transition have realized within them that they see your mind & soul they love isn't going to change, the female you. The only person being hurt is you in your male body until you can be congruent to the female you. Positive, supportive, loving family & friends is a blessing that truly makes the Happiness you have in your heart want to shout this out & share. I am so sorry you don't have your "golden years" with your wife. The Happy years with your wife lives within you & your daughter, you will always have her with you.

I am in my early 70's & just starting hrt. All the best on your journey. Look forward to you posting more & getting involved here.
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Jamie

[jamielikesyou]

That is a very sweet and inspiring story. Gives a lot of hope to those of us (myself included) still needing to come out to family.

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[bethany]

Hi Denise,

Welcome to Susan's

Every victory is awesome no matter the size, and having family that is accepting is huge.

Hugs
Bethany

[DeniseD]

Thank you for the warm welcomes! Yes, I'm very happy about the outcome so far, the last week has not been good for me relationship wise as a long term friend got insulted when I tried to get her to take more time for her own life in an email that she totally took the opposite of what I intended (and I probably did a very poor job of explaining my motivation as well as my fears and insecurity). I'll say that she has been a rock for me in the months after my wife's passing, checking on me, not accepting OK as an answer, offering excellent suggestions like grief counseling, etc. So it looks like any long term hope for that down the road is gone. I'm not ready for a fully committed relationship just yet and don't know when I will be, I'm still working through my grieving process. And I am savoring my step-daughter's acceptance, encouragement and good feelings.
DeniseD

[Jamie D]

Best of luck to you, Denise.

[gennee]

Hi Denise and welcome. I came out to my spouse nearly 8 years ago in my mid fifties.
Your introduction reminded me of that. My condolences to you on your wife's passing.
It's wonderful that she accepted you and supported you.