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Started by mainegirl9466, April 12, 2013, 02:19:04 PM

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mainegirl9466

So about a year ago and after 2 serious suicide attempts I realized the reason I have been so unhappy my entire life and started closet dressing full-time. It has gotten to the point where I really feel I need to go full time soon so I scheduled an appointment with a therapist and a doctor to go on HRT. According to the quotes I got from the doctors office it will cost about 100 dollars a month except for the months were labs need to be drawn which will cost me an additional 200 since the only insurance I have is through the VA. The major question I have is should I wait to to start HRT until after I have done all my hair removal on my face? I would probably with my income be able to afford 6-8 sessions of LHR within the first year of HRT, but I am kinda scared I will have to go full time before I have all my facial hair removed. Any advice on what to do?
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spacial

My advice.

Leave the hair removal for now. It's never ending and will cost a fortune.

Concentrate on those medial bills. They are what matters. Hair removal can be done the old fashioned way for now.

And congratulations on your decision.
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Taka

hrt can have the side effects that it relieves anxiety and makes you more emotionally balanced. if you experience much breast growth before you feel comfortable with going full time, you could possibly bind your chest. lhr and other outside changes can probably wait until you're sure that female hormones make you feel right inside.
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Ms. OBrien CVT


  
It does not take courage or bravery to change your gender.  It takes fear of living one more day in the wrong one.~me
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Donna Elvira

Hi,
If you are really in a situation where you have to choose between HRT and hair removal, I also believe HRT would be the best starting option, mainly because it should simply makes you feel better.
However there are also some very practical benefits. When it works well, apart from bringing more softness to your face, change in skin texture and breast growth, you should loose a lot, if not all,  of your body hair. (I, well into my fifites, lost just about all of my body hair).  That means less work to do using other techniques.
However, if I was you, I would certainly do something about facial hair before making any attempt to go full time. It depends of course on the color and denisty of your facial hair, but beard shadow is a real give away. Also, trying to do beard removal after going full time generally means letting it grow for a few days before doing whatever, laser removal or electrolysis. That is also a very big nuisnance when trying to life full time as a woman.
Think it through well as these issues can come back to haunt you if under-estimated up front.
Warm regards and best of luck.
Donna   
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Lesley_Roberta

As a person that has had the pleasure of seeing hair be a real issue, I am actually thinking laser the face at least and as much of the upper torso as possible first.

Yeah HRT might seem magical and all, but I know what it is like to feel female with a face that can regrow facial hair in under a day. And lets be blunt, how thrilling is it going to be, trying to look nice in femme mode, with the very noticeable facial hair which remains obvious with even the most thorough shave routine.

If I had to choose, I know I'd be ditching the hair first. I have no real desire to pretend a nice top isn't going to look dumb with body hair girls routinely don't deal with.
Well being TG is no treat, but becoming separated has sure caused me more trouble that being TG ever will be. So if I post, consider it me trying to distract myself from being lonely, not my needing to discuss being TG. I don't want to be separated a lot more than not wanting to be male looking.
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sylvannus

I am also having difficulty to pay for HRT and hair removal at the same time, and I chose HRT. I think going into HRT is what will trigger great changes all over your body. Facial hair... I don't know if you have thick facial hair or not. For myself, I shave twice everyday and I'm in full time and no one really noticed it.
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mainegirl9466

Thanks so much everyone! Now that I know that the VA is trans friendly I think I might go talk to my therapist about this and hopefully they will help me.
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Evy

Your story is quite similar to mine, suicidal tendencies, sick of the male personna, seeing no way to solve it but to start full time.

I was thinking the same when i came out, starting my 3th month on HRT. Having done 1 LHR treatment (light sheer laser) after 1 month on E and S, coming from a strong hard black beard on a
white skin, the result is amazing. 40% of the hairs are gone (for now), the rest are thinner and a bit lighter and softer, still coarse. Able to pass on an hd cam now without makeup, what I couldn't
for 5 years, so happy. Now every bodies different, depending on allot of factors. And financially, it's purely up to you. Emotionally I'm so much better for it.
BTW on HRT your growth cycle will lengthen, not always but you could scheduled the sessions 8 weeks apart.

My advice is wait till you start HRT after a few weeks get you blood checked, if the testosterone lvl's are low enough, go for it.
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