Progress with dad

[Shannon1979]

Went to my parents for dinner yesterday. Mum was fairly good, but i knew she would come to terms with it fairly quickly. my dad however basically blanked me for the 3 or so hours i was there, hardly saying a word to me.

I just received a text apologizing for being so off with me as he put it. Promising to be better next week. I know its not exactly embracing this, but even the willingness to send a text to that effect shows me that it may be possible for him to come around eventually.

I replied saying that i understood that this was hard for him. And that if he wanted to ask me questions he could, and if it was easier to text me them at first he could. I said that authough texting might seem a little impersonal i could make it easier to get clear questions and answers. As if we do it face to face straightr away it would get confused and make matters worse.

[spacial]

Now I do believe I hear the sounds of a girl who is on top of things.

Well done. That sounds so basic, but I can't think of the words to tell you how good it is to hear.

[justmeinoz]

Sounds like a good way to deal with it.

[Ltl89]

I happy to hear things seem to be improving.  From what I read, it seems your father is realizing that he can't change this about you and realized his actions were simply hurtful. He wouldn't have wrote that to you unless he felt bad about how he treated you.  I think that shows that he really does love you.  Parents sometimes try to get their kids to act a certain way by punishing them.  In his case, maybe he felt he could control you by acting the way he did.  However, it seems he is realizing this won't work and is beginning to come around.  I think it is great that you are keeping communication open with him. 

I really hope things improve more in the future.