There is so few of us and we are spread so thin it's really hard to push serious help. While our LGB friends have assembled armies to fight ignorance and hate, it feels like every trans person is a lone wolf operative, a secret agent in a sea of ignorance, hate, and confusion.
Our condition is so confusing not only to us but to others that it makes it extremely difficult for us to establish the kind of help and support we need. We almost rely too heavily on chasing after the gay community that we've never really established one of our own. I'm all for being allied with LGB people as I believe the enemy of my enemy is my friend, but they just don't understand us any more than other cis people to provide the help we need.
It really does piss me off that I have to explain to everyone why "I didn't just go gay because it would be easier." and working with other trans people is so hard because frankly as others have pointed out, so many of them are so confused and beaten down fighting their own feelings and those around them to figure themselves out that they've either been driven mad or into hiding.
One reason I've chosen to never go stealth is because my sanity, my support, and the ease of my transition (comparatively) has put me into a unique transition to provide some sort of trans example to the cis community. Like "Hey look i'm trans and a person like you, don't be a dick!" I've even made it clear to everyone I meet that i'm open to any question they have about me, even ones that many trans women have made clear is none of anyone's business. I've already gotten every question that you can think of from feelings, to biology to sexuality and I've answered every one I can in the name of education and understanding. I hope that these people will pass on this experience to others and enlighten them as to our struggles and the reality of our bodies and feelings.
I'm hoping that once I go full time I can speak to other young people maybe in guest lectures or something and educate. Anything I can to show as many people as possible that we aren't freaks or monsters. Even if I change a few minds it's worth my time and privacy.
