I need some help.

[Solaela]

I kinda need some advice here...How do I fight off the habits that I had developed trying to hide being what I was from everyone? You know. Those 'boy' habits.

[=celestica=]

work on them in your room.
correct your posture if you haven't already, so when you take hrt and develop boobs you'll have no problem showing them off.
bad sloppy posture just looks bad on everyone, but especially girls since not only does it make you look "saggy" but it can lead to them sagging faster.

Learn how to walk
how to talk female

i mean i don't see why you cant do this in your room?
just study how girls do it.

[KayCeeDee]

Like what specifically?

In general, observe girls and mimic their behavior. Eventually they will replace the old habits.

[Ltl89]

One of my girlfriends and I discussed this very topic tonight.  I feel very feminine internally, but I am sometimes afraid to express it due to fear.  I feel like I have created a robotic mainly persona to display to others so I won't be judged or detected.  Unfortunately, I hate that this persona and feel like I am playing a false role even though I am being me.  As a result, I hate the way I interact with others because I feel like I can't express myself or socialize in an honest manner. The best advice I can give is be the you that you want to be.  It might feel difficult and forced in the beginning, but things will come natural the more you do it.  Yes, you can observe other girls and learn from them.  There are common mannerisms that you can learn and help you fit in more.  That is not a bad idea.  But, the most important thing to do, I think, is for you to act the way you want or wish you could act.  Go from their and just be yourself.  You are a girl and will have a natural feminine side to express once you discover it and allow it to take form. 

[Solaela]

Anywhere I could look at how girls sit and things like that? And just general boy habits. and thanks for the advice so far ^_^

[Ltl89]

Honestly, just observe mannerisms that people display in your everyday life.  You will pick up a lot from just watching people.  Just don't stare If you feel uncomfortable doing that, you can even watch television and look at the differences between male and female characters.  I don't know of any guide out there, so observation is probably your best bet.

As for sitting, most women tend to sit with their legs crossed or closed.  Men are more likely to sit with their legs open and they don't always fully cross their legs.  Instead, they rest one leg on top of the other.  Of course, these are generalizations, but you get the idea. 

[Kelly J. P.]

As for sitting, most women tend to sit with their legs crossed or closed. 

Crossing your legs at the ankle is extremely comfortable - at the knee, however, may be quite uncomfortable depending on how narrow your hips are, and how much extra bio-matter is sitting in your underwear.

Youtube videos can be a great source of information for all of this if you're not comfortable with going outside to make observations. There are probably a few videos that deal with the topics specifically, for ->-bleeped-<-s/traps/early transitioners. These videos obviously vary in the quality and truth of their content, but they are so easily accessible that there's very little excuse to not be learning female mannerisms somehow.

Unless, of course, you don't want to or simply don't care.

The advantage of having been flamboyant as a boy is that you don't have to unlearn your habits. You could probably get away with feminine mannerisms as a male, depending on the environment, if you wanted to get extra practice. People will probably think that you're gay or strange, but this isn't typically a big deal - again, depending on the environment.

[Solaela]

THanks. I'll try youtube in regards to that as I feel awkward looking at girls to see how they move and stuff in RL...

[XchristineX]

Imo opinion being saturated with Spiro and estrogen really
Does most if the heavy lifting....it did for me..unless I came girl

And learning to posture standing up is easy to figure out...

[muuu]

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[Isabelle]

My advice, just be you. Don't copy other people's mannerisms. Don't try to "walk like a girl" You are a girl, you walk like one already. Just allow yourself to express yourself naturally. Everything will come together on its own.

[sylvannus]

My advice, just be you. Don't copy other people's mannerisms. Don't try to "walk like a girl" You are a girl, you walk like one already. Just allow yourself to express yourself naturally. Everything will come together on its own.

I think if she is willing, it is perfectly alright. Even genetic girls have "body gesture trainings". Just do not do it in a way too exaggerated.

[suzifrommd]

I think if she is willing, it is perfectly alright. Even genetic girls have "body gesture trainings". Just do not do it in a way too exaggerated.

I agree. For me, practicing walking and moving like a woman helps me drop some of the unmistakably male mannerisms I've picked up over the decades.