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suzifrommd

May 17, 2013, 08:52:43 PM
What are your upsides to transgender?

For me:

1. I have a whole army of trans brothers and sisters at Susan's who I can relate to.
2. I get to see life from two sides whereas nearly everyone else only sees it from one.
Have you read my short story The Eve of Triumph?
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Anatta

#1
May 17, 2013, 09:04:26 PM
Kia Ora Suzi,

::) "What are your up sides to transgender ?"

Knowing it was 'just' a phase I had to go through to become who I am...

Good question....

Meta Zenda :)
"The most essential method which includes all other methods is beholding the mind. The mind is the root from which all things grow. If you can understand the mind, everything else is included !"   :icon_yes:
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my mother's other daughter

#2
May 17, 2013, 09:08:33 PM
Many confounding things suddenly made sense.
Leigh Anne
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King Malachite

#3
May 17, 2013, 10:11:01 PM
For me personally, the only good thing about being transgender is finding out the reason why I've been so screwed up all of my life.  Of course this is just for me personally and doesn't apply to anyone else.
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Misato

#4
May 17, 2013, 10:17:36 PM
The good news is I'm transgender. I've learned so much and been freed from so many things I don't think I would have otherwise been.

The bad news is-- nope!  There isn't any! :)  Sure I've got my difficulties but I wouldn't give up being me for nuttin'!
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Rachel

#5
May 17, 2013, 10:20:41 PM
I am learning to like my "self" and believe I am not a deviate. I am deconstructing the box I have kept my "self" in for my life. I recognize I am in control of my "self" and I can transition. 
HRT  5-28-2013
FT   11-13-2015
FFS   9-16-2016 -Spiegel
GCS 11-15-2016 - McGinn
Hair Grafts 3-20-2017 - Cooley
Voice therapy start 3-2017 - Reene Blaker
Labiaplasty 5-15-2017 - McGinn
BA 7-12-2017 - McGinn
Hair grafts 9-25-2017 Dr.Cooley
Sataloff Cricothyroid subluxation and trachea shave12-11-2017
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Dr. Sataloff Glottoplasty 5-14-2018
Dr. McGinn vaginal in office procedure 10-22-2018
Dr. McGinn vaginal revision 2 4-3-2019 Bottom of vagina closed off, fat injected into the labia and urethra repositioned.
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Anna++

#6
May 17, 2013, 10:39:48 PM
Being transgender means that I finally get to be the girl I've always secretly wanted to be :)
Sometimes I blog things

Of course I'm sane.  When trees start talking to me, I don't talk back.
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DanaRSS

#7
May 17, 2013, 11:33:54 PM
The good news is...that nagging feeling that something in life is not OK is actually treatable.
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StellaB

#8
May 18, 2013, 01:40:23 AM
Better quality of friendships and fewer idiots in my life.
"The truth within me is more than the reality which surrounds me."
Constantin Stanislavski

Mistakes not only provide opportunities for learning but also make good stories.
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ChristyB

#9
May 18, 2013, 02:24:13 AM
Upside to being transgender"? Hmmm, some days they seems to be far and few.
1) I finally have an explanation for my prolonged mental 'illness'. Depression despite having a loving wife and a decent job with prospects of a 'happy' future. I am not able to be ME.
2) Via Susan's, exploring how far these feelings go.(i.e. am I just a cross dresser. am I gay, am I just plain weird?)
3) Admitting to being trans gives one the freedom to explore one's own feelings to see how far and how deep the difference goes.

I am battling with myself about being TG, one day it is a given, the next it is a delusion. I fervently hope that soon what I am will be evident. Until then, being Trans gives me the freedom to find out just what it is to be ME.

Christy.
Meh.
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Cindy

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May 18, 2013, 05:00:16 AM
It is an interesting perspective. I do still remember the pain and depression and the sleepless nights and the drinking and the cursing and crying.

But now? I'm happy, I'm content, I have friends both so many here and many friends that I have now met. I'm confident, I think I look good. I enjoy being me.

I remember him dying and it was like a light shining  in my face. I could see.

Cindy
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ZoeM

#11
May 18, 2013, 06:11:26 AM
The good news is, my outside form and my inside feelings can finally match. Also, thankfully, I don't have a wife or kids who could be hurt by it.

Oh, and hair. Well-set hair is amazing.
Don't lose who you are along the path to who you want to be.








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Elle16

#12
May 18, 2013, 07:30:48 AM
Upsides for me would be:

Wearing what I want to wear and feeling great in it!
Having the courage to face people in my real identity and not as someone else
Learing to love myself again
Staying positive and happy

Downsides:

People just don't understand what I've gone through to accept myself and how I am as a human being. I was always meant to be a girl and I'm happy that I can now be one  :angel:
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Edge

#13
May 18, 2013, 07:53:31 AM
1. I love my son. He wouldn't exist if I wasn't trans.
2. I no longer feel that aching hole caused by pretending to be female.
3. I feel a lot better about myself. (Not that there's anything wrong with being female. I just feel better about myself because I am being myself.)
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ashley_thomas

#14
May 18, 2013, 08:50:29 AM
Staring down the barrel of losing a very lucrative career makes it hard to see anything good about it, yet I still love myself and find self-acceptance to be an addictive drug with no bad side effects.
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Erik Ezrin

#15
May 18, 2013, 09:02:21 AM
Knowing that I'm not crazy, or mentally disturbed, etc. and that I'm not alone feeling like this.

Being more myself, and even though I sometimes hate my life and body also feeling happier with it, as now I know what caused my earlier unhappiness, AND I know there's a way to fix it.

Also having a good 'insight' into both sexes. If I would have born a guy I would probably never have ended up so understanding and sensitive, which I figure women really like. Also do I know how horrible periods are, how difficult it sometimes is to be a woman and have a (better) understanding in how many women (seem?) to think. Though I have to admit I sometimes still don't get them, lol!

But the most valuable thing for me is accepting and discovering myself, and finally loving myself for who I am! :)
"I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not" -Kurt Cobain

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spacial

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May 18, 2013, 09:37:10 AM Last Edit: May 18, 2013, 10:51:01 AM by spacial

                                           body or mind
                                                    ^
For those who have transitioned,    having a broader perspective on the world.

If we compare it to being born blind. You get used to it. You deal with it. In rare cases, a cure comes and you can see. A better world to be sure, but you will have gained so much.

Edit, apologies for the edit, but needed to add the three words above.
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Shantel

#17
May 18, 2013, 10:14:31 AM
The upside for me:

Becoming more calm and laid back, and the obvious effects of my HRT regimen.

More accepting of others within the GLBTI spectrum rather than being formerly rather bigoted.

Being able to think with both male and female sides of my brain.

Enjoying my relationship with my S.O. on a more emotional level rather than just the physical.

Knowing that it's finally OK to cry out loud and express my inner feelings.

Being included in a conversation with a group of women and enjoying their obvious appreciation of me in their group.

Having empathy for cis women and their issues rather than just considering it women's drivel.

Enjoying a discussion about relationships.

The release in knowing that I no longer have to respond to jerks in a formerly aggressive manner.

Enjoying a day of shopping at the mall and no longer feeling like a fish out of water in "women's intimates" department.

A nice outing for lunch and a glass of wine with the girls as opposed to being covered with ticks on a hunting trip.

Being accepted by my wife as someone she loves who wears a bra and shares similar external physical anatomy.

There is so much more I cannot enumerate all of the perks!
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Jennygirl

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May 18, 2013, 10:25:39 AM
Quote from: Cindy. on May 18, 2013, 05:00:16 AM
It is an interesting perspective. I do still remember the pain and depression and the sleepless nights and the drinking and the cursing and crying.

But now? I'm happy, I'm content, I have friends both so many here and many friends that I have now met. I'm confident, I think I look good. I enjoy being me.

I remember him dying and it was like a light shining  in my face. I could see.

Cindy

Cindy, you are a beacon of light and power.. I just love your response.

+ freaking 1 !!!
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E-Brennan

#19
May 18, 2013, 05:17:59 PM
Sorry to be a downer, but I've yet to see the good news.  Perhaps it's far too early.  But right now, it's all bad news.   :(

It's always darkest before dawn, right?
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