How Long Did it Take You to Reach "Male Fail" Mode?

[ZoeM]

I think I'm at the 50/50 personally. I did an experiment to see if I pass. Basically, since I don't go out at all due to working 3rd shift at my job, I used Omegle to try this out. When I'm in guy mode I dress kind of androgynous (v-neck, skinny jeans, etc). When I got on Omegle in guy mode I got more disconnects from other users than I could count. So I stopped, put on my girl clothes, slapped on some mascara and eyeliner, made sure my hair was looking good, and the difference was astounding as I got less and less disconnections. Now I haven't been practicing my voice as I should be so I turned off my mic, but based on my appearance alone I'd say I pass.  That really boosted my self-confidence (which is always at an all-time low).

That's actually really clever.
Except for all the wankers (literal and figurative) you have to wade through to do it.

[nataliebee334]

Yeah the wankers were a problem which is why I spent 2 to 3 hours doing this lol

[ZoeM]

Speaking of 'male fail'... I went to take a health risk assessment, full guy mode... Sat down at the table with the nurse/medical professional of unknown denomination... And the lady asked me if I am, or could become, pregnant.

This not two hours after I was bemoaning my lack of femininity. 😀

[Joanna Dark]

Speaking of 'male fail'... I went to take a health risk assessment, full guy mode... Sat down at the table with the nurse/medical professional of unknown denomination... And the lady asked me if I am, or could become, pregnant.

This not two hours after I was bemoaning my lack of femininity.

Judging by your new avatar I can see why she thought you could get pregnant! Someone is looking pretty! Heck a little eyeliner and and a couple well-placed plucks of the eyebrows and you would go from pretty to fabulous!

[big kim]

Around the 18 months of HRT stage and a lot of electrolysis for me.

[Northern Jane]

I was  pretty androgynous as a teen anyway. I started HRT at 17 and went off to college at 19. By 19 I couldn't pass as male even if I tried.

[Reagan]

It started around six months of HRT and by 8 months there was no way I could pass as a boy any longer. It didn't matter how I dressed. I remember that I was so unsure about myself that at times I would still dress as a boy. Often I would still get mam'ed or referred to as a dyke. That's when I figured that I was  there.

But right before that time I started the Fail was the hardest time of my transition. That tweener stage. Whew it sucked.

[Alainaluvsu]

It started around six months of HRT and by 8 months there was no way I could pass as a boy any longer. It didn't matter how I dressed. I remember that I was so unsure about myself that at times I would still dress as a boy. Often I would still get mam'ed or referred to as a dyke. That's when I figured that I was  there.

But right before that time I started the Fail was the hardest time of my transition. That tweener stage. Whew it sucked.

I loved that tweener stage. I messed with people pretty hard during that time. I'd go from being a radical feminist to somebody who loved fart jokes just to see their reactions.

[A]

Ahaha, you're kinda cruel.

Me, I've contented myself with silently watching and internally laughing at debates about my gender involving hardly convincing arguments. (Hairpins = girl!)

[Reagan]

I loved that tweener stage. I messed with people pretty hard during that time. I'd go from being a radical feminist to somebody who loved fart jokes just to see their reactions.

LOL! yeah I still remember some of the awkward encounters with cis people. It's funny now... looking back at it.

[Sammy]

I dont know what exactly just happened... I was jogging and it was already going towards the dusk, so there were two young women on the street and they kept staring at me as I was slowly jogging towards them - it was already getting late, but there were still a lot of folks around - cyclists, skaters, joggers, dog-walkers etc . And as I was passing them by, I heard one of them asking the other "Was that a man???" I was quite relaxed with my usual soft smile while running (and I was sweating as a pig too since I had been doing that for 50 mins already...). I now do my hair in an andro-hairstyle constantly and I dont have any explicitly rough or sharp features on my face... So, I felt pretty happy afterwards 🙂

[Kitteh Engimeer]

I'm at almost a year, and I still need makeup to really pass. My real hair is longish, but also boyish, so that definitely doesn't help. I'm waiting until it gets to my shoulders before I begin to style it though... gonna be a while longer. But I'm just happy to be out, even if it takes an hour of getting makeup right 😮

[Misato]

I'm at almost a year, and I still need makeup to really pass. My real hair is longish, but also boyish, so that definitely doesn't help. I'm waiting until it gets to my shoulders before I begin to style it though... gonna be a while longer. But I'm just happy to be out, even if it takes an hour of getting makeup right

I keep hoping as I start to close in on the five and six month marks I'll be free to dress down and still be gendered correctly.  But in my heart I fret that'll never happen.  If it doen't I hope to still have my happy attitude, as you still have!

I did sign up for some makeup party yesterday.  Expecting it to be fun and maybe shave some time off.

[pebbles]

3months, had my first incident of "Hello miss... I MEAN SIR! I'm so sorry!" Also at this stage it took the edge off the maleness and I was seen and treated more as a teen boy again rather than a man.

5-6months,
both male fail and female fail, it was unpleasant I explicitly didn't want to attract attention but I couldn't help it at this stage. I would walk past people they would stare I'd hear them whispering. "
While I was glad to not be male it got old REALLY quick.

8-9months I was falling far more on the female side... I would be gendered as female but I had to make effort to be passable as female.

16 months+ Is where I where I don't even have to really make an effort. I just looked like an unkempt wild-woman if I don't put in any effort.

[Charley Bea(EmeraldP)]

Well no male fail for me at all but then at this stage(only a little behind you on hrt) I am not exactly able to dress for feminine partly cause I do not want to change my dress sense(barely any) too much but also not too many people in my family know i am transitioning and they are ones that visit alot. Also have yet to build the confidence to try and go out dressed up anyway, the closest I got was for my last Endo appointment I wore my new boots black pants with a pirate/renaissance style shirt I have with what on the label was described as a pirate coat. so I was flashy but no make up. Got no weird looks.

Also extreme lack of feminine clothes(besides one dress) and makeup(only lipstick, eyeliner) Makes it tricky.

I also feel that in your new avatar and ZoeyM's aswell that I see no masculinity showing all girl. Congrats both of you.

[Seyranna]

I was systematically passing after my third laser session pre-HRT but I mastered the voice early on too so I guess it would be hard to tell. At my age passing pre-HRT is rather uncommon though so I know I was very lucky to be able to pull that off so easily.

[Renee]

I'll let you know when I get there.

[kyh]

Well no male fail for me at all but then at this stage(only a little behind you on hrt) I am not exactly able to dress for feminine partly cause I do not want to change my dress sense(barely any) too much but also not too many people in my family know i am transitioning and they are ones that visit alot. Also have yet to build the confidence to try and go out dressed up anyway, the closest I got was for my last Endo appointment I wore my new boots black pants with a pirate/renaissance style shirt I have with what on the label was described as a pirate coat. so I was flashy but no make up. Got no weird looks.

Also extreme lack of feminine clothes(besides one dress) and makeup(only lipstick, eyeliner) Makes it tricky.

I also feel that in your new avatar and ZoeyM's aswell that I see no masculinity showing all girl. Congrats both of you.

Thanks so much! ^_^ hugs!

[Michelle S.]

Be patient! I know it's tough and I felt the same way at 4 months too... and 5... and 6... until about month 8. At month 6 people started confusing me - I was presenting as male at work at the time so no make up or femme clothes. I do timing and event management for endurance races and, often participants would address me as ma'am but then apologize. From month 7-8 I noticed a huge difference. I now go out with a little foundation or no makeup and I want to say 99% of the people see me as female. I have heard a lot of people kind of hit this "spurt" around month 7-8 and I definitely did.


Just hang in there, it will certainly get better, promise! 🙂

[Joanna Dark]

I started to pass at 73 days but now I feel like my progress has stopped and I am done changing and that is the end. That isn't possible is it? Because I do realize I am privileged to pass that quickly and all but I want to not just be passable but also pretty. I need laser like yesterday but I won't be able to get it for like another three weeks or so. I am also hoping to get laser resurfacing to get rid of pockmarks I got like a couple years ago. I had horrible acne and I literally had these boils on my face for weeks and I cried everyday. The finally went away but not without damage. makeup does cover them up for the most part.

Anyhoo, I can't wait to get to the 8 month mark. Gwad that seems great. But I am just really happy to be on HRT. last night I went to sleep with a big smile on my face with the thought that in three short years being a man will be this nightmare that I will no longer have any memory of it's gross appendage that is attached to me. Ack!