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Sharing a dorm with Cisguys?

Started by patrick, May 25, 2013, 05:45:31 PM

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patrick

Hi, I'm just curious to know has anyone here been at an all boys school or shared a dorm with guys in like uni or whatever? I've fully socially transitioned and I'm beginning to physically transition (a month on T, with very little changes so far...  ??? how long did it take for everyone else to have noticeable changes?) and in September I'm going to be boarding at a boys school about 2 hours away from home which is nerve-wracking enough, I'll be there for 3 years while I finish my last school year and then continue and do A levels there. But of course I've worried a lot. I had an induction day last week and it went pretty well, I spoke to a couple of the guys there and the teachers are all very accepting so I'm pretty stoked about that, I'm just worried about being in a dorm with guys, for example if they saw my binder? And when my changes on T become more visible like my voice starts to break? The teachers have all been informed of the situation but the plan is to play stealth in general, I don't know how good an idea it would be to out to everybody though. I guess in general I'm totally comfortable with the idea of an all boys school, at first I was a bit iffy but now all that bothers me is sharing a dorm... Do you think I should see if I could have a private room or would that make me seem odd? I can't just go as a day student because of the distance. If I can't get a private room would it be safe dorming with other guys and has anyone here done so?
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AdamMLP

In your induction day did you get to look around the boarding house at all?  I boarded part time at my school, although I was in the female house (it was a co-ed school), and pretty much everyone, unless they specifically asked to share with someone from year 9 and above, got their own room.  I was only there for three nights a week and I got a single room even though I was more than happy to share with others.  Of course this all depends on how much space there is in the house, it's lay out, and how many people are staying there, but it wouldn't be unusual at my old school at all.  The sixth form house was almost entirely single rooms as far as I know.

Just expect some quite bizarre routine rules, for example not being allowed to brush your teeth before breakfast but having to leave your tooth brush in a box so that you could do it afterwards in a room with only three sinks and then collect it that evening.  Actually breakfast was even more bizarre, who has fish fingers for breakfast?!
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Simon

We had a guy here with a similar situation but living off campus. This thread may help:

https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,139540.0.html
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Robert Scott

My son shared a room with a guy in college ... he lived in the dorm ... he started transitioning in college so his roommate knew .. but lots of folks didn't know.  He had no problems. 
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