Oh man, we are so in a similar boat here. I'm very much the same, re: ethnicity and skin tone and I think that the need to have my packer match is what drove me to play around with modifying them.
Anyway, for me, I like the idea of a basic Mr Limpy, recolored and cored, so that you can either insert a rod/vibe for sex, or the STP device of your choice that fits well with your anatomy. It's easy, cheap, and gives you a lot of flexibility. The downside is that it's very DIY and not as sturdy or sterilizable as other set ups.
The Peecock seems great, but IMO the color is a little iffy, as are the details. Ditto "Like Real" packers, though what seem good about this brand is that you can use any STP you want with them, while with Peecock, you only have one built-in option, and if it doesn't end up working for you, you'll end up running a tube down it anyway which might detract from the realism/overall function. The up side, sex-wise, for both of these is that you can insert rods or vibes into them to make them pleasurable for both giver and receiver.
Lola Jake is another company which has packers like this, but again, people have had problems with the color, details, and durability issues. I've heard that they're revamping their line as we speak, however, so that might not be a problem in the near future.
I also like the idea of getting one of the more realistic, mid-range products (because their color matching is best) professionally cored for use with STPs and erection rod/s. Lots of companies wont do that though, and I wouldn't approach it on my own.
It' really frustrating.
I'd say your best bet is the Peecock, right now. And maybe, you can recolor it on your own with silicone paints if you're displeased with the color? I'm working on a tutorial on how to do that cheaply, using the same techniques FX prosthetics folks do for movies and television.
What's also been helpfull for me is scouring the internet for pictures of male genitalia that match your skin tone/ethnic background so that you can send those along to companies and say "this is what I'd want. How close can you get?"