Sending email

[Bookworm]

I typed up a letter and I am about to email it to my mom. I am going out with some friends so she cant talk to me about it right away. I know this is the coward way to do it, but oh well. I am just that and I am fine with it. I need to come out because I am going crazy in this limbo of mine. Wish me luck.

[Anna++]

Good luck!  I haven't been able to bring myself to tell anybody out loud yet, so don't think of it as the cowards way out.

Keep us posted

[kyh]

Yeah, let us know how it goes!

[King Malachite]

Good Luck!

[Rinzler]

Good luck, Bookworm! And let us know how it goes! And you are certainly not taking the coward's way out, this is a difficult matter to bring up to anyone.

[Ltl89]

Coward's way out?  Not at all.  This is what I'm planning on doing myself.  Just prepare yourself for a fun Q&A when you come home.  Good luck

[Darkie]

Good luck!

[Bookworm]

Well she was asleep when I got home. I know she got the letter because I got a call asking when I would get home and a response of probably not. This is only important because I asked her a lot of questions. I don't know what the answer was to. It could be anything. I honestly do not know. I am hopeful, but it looks like a whole lot of headache ahead of me. Story of my life.

[Darkie]

Well she was asleep when I got home. I know she got the letter because I got a call asking when I would get home and a response of probably not. This is only important because I asked her a lot of questions. I don't know what the answer was to. It could be anything. I honestly do not know. I am hopeful, but it looks like a whole lot of headache ahead of me. Story of my life.

That sucks! Waiting is horrible no matter the circumstance.  I'm the kind of person that wants to know right that minute!

[Bookworm]

Yeah it sucks, but honestly I kind of regret telling her. I thought she would be open to it, but now I am not so sure.

[Darkie]

Yeah it sucks, but honestly I kind of regret telling her. I thought she would be open to it, but now I am not so sure.

You might need to give her time.  She's probably processing everything.  It's a lot for a parent to digest.  Just keep your chin up!

[Bookworm]

I will try, but I would bet money it gets sweeped under the rug. Mom is good at those kinds of things.

[Ltl89]

Well, you still don't know for sure how she took it.  Just relax and try to be patient for her response.  Even if she isn't favourable to the idea, it doesn't mean she won't come around.  Lots of parents need time to adjust to this sort of thing.  Yet, they love their children and do their best to support them.  This is something you need to show you are serious about.  So, if she tries to sweep it under the rug, actively seek out a conversation with her.  Don't get scared, show your conviction to be who you are. 

[Bookworm]

I will try to relax it is just going to be hard. I am a little impatient, but I also don't want to know what she thinks on the same hand. I am afraid of complete rejection.

[Darkie]

HOLY ->-bleeped-<- CATS  <- Here, watch this.  It always cheers me up.

[Ltl89]

I will try to relax it is just going to be hard. I am a little impatient, but I also don't want to know what she thinks on the same hand. I am afraid of complete rejection.

That is understandable.  However, most parents don't reject their children.  Many may be disagreeable initially, but that doesn't mean they will reject you.

[Bookworm]

See the thing is I dont think that even if she accepts me I will be able to do anything about it financially. That is an even bigger let down as well . I did take the first step though and that is something.

[Ltl89]

I live at home myself and have financial issues as well, so I sympathize.  However, you can always find a way to pay for what's necessary. Transitioning can be expensive, so it would be wise to work and save up.  If you live at home, this means you don't have to worry about the cost of rent which can be a huge factor.  So even if you don't get the best job, you should be able to earn enough money for some of the more immediate aspects of transitioning. 

[Bookworm]

Well I have talked to my mom twice today once through a short text and once over the phone when she went on break. Both times she made sure and called me son. She also seemed angry. I guess telling her was a bust.

[aleon515]

I am currently coming out to my fundamentalist sister. I am actually using snail mail. The reason is that snail mail you can't just hit the "send" button if she wants to make a quick but thoughtless comment, which she might. It slows down the whole process. Also slows it down for me.


--Jay