Why is there stealth shaming? Hope its not a dumb question, but still fresh to being FTM (well knowing a term for myself). I noticed on some sites, forums, topics, etc. men are being almost shamed for being stealth or working on going stealth. We spend life savings on surgery to match up our outer shell, to match the male guts, never miss a T-shot to stay the way we feel we should be, exercise to rid of feminine hips pre and post T, opt out of some surgeries because they want make us look male/real enough, or function real enough etc. We spend so much time to transition to be male and be identified as male by others. God forbid some one calls you she who hasn't seen you and is confused? Don't take this wrong I'm listing off how many feel including myself. We don't want to be mis-gendered, don't want to be identified as our birth shells. We shoot to be the men we are or should be and want to pass, and be able to mark M on papers, yet its bad to be stealth. We work our butts off spend thousands to pass and never go back. We fight off dysphoria by transitioning into who we want to be. So why are guys being called out, shamed, and harassed by other FTMs for not wanting to be all foot forward hi I'm FTM! Its individuals choice, and for safety, I see why go stealth, if no one can separate the difference between cis/trans why can't being stealth be okay. Why must a guy disclose he was born female and transitioned into the man you see today. You were always a man, you just have a disorder so why disclose or be shunned for not disclosing you are a transsexual.
I would love to be stealth one day and live as a male with no other knowledge of a past tense of female to others. I'm not openly out or on T yet, I pass sometimes and it feels good when no one questions or hesitates or apologizes for saying sir, mr, bruh, bro, man, etc. I love it. I feel being stealth there wont be a second thought to who I truly am and that's what we all want so why do guys get shamed? I think my music career could ruin going stealth to an extent, but my Aerospace major wont so its like the battle of passion and the idea my music career wont blossom to millions so why give up on the thought?
If you are safely at a point post surgeries, T, etc. why be shammed? Does anyone have a answer on why they shame or why guys are shamed?