You know, this may sound really hypocritical coming from someone who has been posting asking for emotional support all week, but I think I'm just now realizing how much of a problem with body issues our community has. Seriously. We really are trying to live up to a completely unobtainable standard of beauty.
And the more I read from the women on here who look absolutely FANTASTIC, and yet constantly keep posting about how ugly they are, really makes this point hit home for me. This really is a choice. A choice to keep obsessing over every single damned one of your body flaws and all of the ways that you are inadequate compared to some cultural standard of femininity, which will inevitably result in a whole lifetime of feeling like crap and wishing that you were someone else in a different body, or just be happy. Seriously. Be like Tracy Turnbladt from "Hairspray." She doesn't give a damn that she's overweight, and she doesn't follow the cultural standard that says that if you're not thin you have to be miserable about it, and she just goes about her life making the most out of every single moment, completely upbeat and loving every second of it.
Go figure. We really need to just quit submitting to that cultural mindset that says if you're not completely flawless you have to be miserable about it until you are. All that will lead to is a lifetime of unhappiness and feelings of inadequacy. So I say, quit worrying, be happy, and love who you are!
*preaching session over*
And again, I know this sounds hypocritical coming from me, but I guess I've finally reached my breaking point in regards to allowing myself to obsess over body issues, and this thread kind of pushed me to it. Because I've realized, it always something. There are SO many threads exactly like this, and it's always something different... whether it's hand size, or muscles, or lack of hips, or skeletal structure, or whatever, it's ALWAYS something. And I kind of realized, I'm sick of allowing myself to feel like crap about these. Every single damned one of them is a dysphoria trigger, and I have to spend hours getting over it. So you know what? I have a choice. I have a choice to either keep obsessing over all of these "inadequate" features, making myself feel like a miserable unpretty self-loating pile of crap, or I can just get over it, accept myself, and be happy with who I am. And I encourage others to do the same. Quit worrying so damned much. Accept yourself. Love yourself. Realize that you are beautiful. Be happy. Don't fall into the same trap that cisgender women do where they're beautiful, and yet everyone can see it except them. You ARE beautiful. Regardless of any of these nitpicky body issues that everyone lets get them down. And regardless of what bodily physical features you have, you are a woman. Don't let dysphoria make you doubt it. That is all.
