Hi,
Because im a bit different & live in N Z i did not do any of the details or jump through any hoops by passed the WPATH & the other detail that came from the APA . i never did liveing as a woman for a time . = two years or what ever, never dressed as a woman ether,. i did take two years of learning what would suit myself as in clothes makeup , & that was it & only in the evenings with Jos, You see clothes dont make or change who i am,
I told Jos i am a woman. then told our G P who knew both Jos & i for a few years, i then went to our Psych talked with him for 3 / 4 of an hour & told him im a woman & I will live as one he signed me off & said i dont need to see you again , then went to our Endo was on hormones with in 3 months at my request had surgery with in 3 years again at my request .
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I still did not dress in my womens clothes & why should i , does wearing womens clothes make you a woman no you grow as one.
I was born intersexed, so did not need to do as most trans people do, though i did not tell or say i was intersexed, as there was no need & it would have created more issues i did not need to have to contend with certinly not then.
I dont agree with most of the details that trans go through because most of it is out of date passed its use by date, & does not help a person who is very different from being a male as in trans , the reason being it may apply to some & yes will help them ,This is where i wont agree is some of us are infact female & dont need to go through a systm thats based on money & that is what drives what the APA & other WPATH say , ,
I paid for my detail & surgerys, & im not a kid who needs to be told what i am i dont need to pass a test & what for, at a cost of some $ 1,000 or talking about what i need . sorry im the one telling my story ill be the one to decide whats best for myself .
& the other reason being is we are not all the same we dont all need to follow a one size fits all it did not work before or will it work now, or latter, no matter whats said & done,
Now those who need help ill say go for it im not opposed to those who do. its about what works for some of us may not work for others,
Now i do know some who went through all the detail hormones surgerys talking sorting out who they were / are, & because they never were female or women have gone back to liveing as they were, why there are a few reasons though the one i hear is it was a fantisy ......ether your born female like i am or you wont to be like a woman.
Now had i not been female would i have paid at my expence for surgerys i dought very much that i would have wonted to.
The cost is more than just surgerys its marrage family & a lot more involved , so no it was done to keep myself alive & have a life, that would not have happened had i been a male. i never wonted to be female it was how i was born yet there are a few details that are similar to trans people, just not in all details,
So some of us are different & we all dont fully understand others in thier life, & what they need to do. & because we are different cant we have a say in whats best for us, with out others telling us whats best for us, or interfering . its our life when all said & done not thiers its the one who needs the help when they ask for it.
...noeleena...
