Suzy,
I certainly meant no offense. I completely agree with you about this notion that we must live our lives openly as examples of how gender can be transcended. Mind you, this is a subjective thing, and some of us do live openly so as to help change the way our world views gender. I count myself as one of these people, but the idea that others should have to follow suit is bogus in my opinion. Andreja has also always been one of these people as well-and their narrative was always a very compelling one. They choose to be a role model of sorts.
With Andreja, it was never presented as an issue of identity, or as a means of questioning their gender. Here was someone who was truly living in between genders, or outside gender entirely-it wasn't due to dysphoria, it wasn't some huge crisis they were experiencing. They simply did as they pleased-male or female, none of it seemed to matter to them. I think the narrative of someone living this way is a very significant one because it does demonstrate that gender is a fluid thing. It's wonderful that they can finally feel comfortable in their own skin, but I simply wish that it was possible for someone to live that way without feeling any sort of dysphoria.