First of all. Normally I don't comment on that here because it's apparently impolite for English speakers, but in this case I feel it's needed. Make actual sentences, use commas and try to make your text easily understandable. I did understand, but painfully and only because it was relatively short. You'll get more results and make repliers happier if you do just that.
Now, on-topic. Clothes: When I went for the first time, I was hypocritical. I went into a store, and complained to the clerk how guys' stuff never fit my butt, and that I needed help to find girls' but not too girly stuff. Now as for REAL girls' clothes, well, I'm going for the first time tomorrow, and at the moment (more so tomorrow when I have fake breasts - oh yes the joys of crappy doses of HRT) I mostly pass, so I won't need any workaround, I think.
Shoes: Many companies make large shoes; however most stores don't carry much or any of them, because they don't sell a lot. So your best bet is going to be the Internet. If you want, you can go into a store, look at some models, try to figure out the proportions (whether they would suit you in a bigger size or whether they're just not made for your feet), write down the model and then go to the manufacturer's website (or some other online store) and see if they have your size. Apart from that, well, you can always try those stores that classify shoes by size, so you can just go where your size is and see if there's anything you like. I think there was something called Payless Shoe Store. Something like that. Dunno if it's international though.
