'Sorry' Is Not the Non-Operative Word
http://www.bilerico.com/2013/06/the_non-operative_word_is_not_sorry.php6/12/13
Mercedes Allen
When it comes to genital reassignment, the non-operative word among trans people should not be "sorry."
That's not a very popular statement in transsexual communities. But as much as I don't like "rules" for being trans, I have arrived at one guideline:
Do as much or as little as you need to achieve the peace that you need.
It's not quite that clear and simple, of course, especially given the pressures to conform and integrate as either male or female, which have been idealized as binary opposites in society. Trans -- that is to say, both transitioning from one sex to another and/or living between genders -- challenges those absolutes, but it's also a lot to ask, for someone to remain a life-long challenge to society.
