Woman stops dangerous transboy from using proper bathroom, saves seven

[FTMDiaries]

Of course my argument hinges on the disabled toilet being unsuitable, if it does turn out to be suitable my argument is shot too pieces.

Exactly. I'm willing to bet that the disabled loos meet Equality legislation requirements (they'd have to, to ensure there is no discrimination against disabled people) so that argument probably wouldn't stand up. The case I linked to in my previous post was about exactly that situation, and the appellant lost her case against her employer because the courts considered the disabled loos to be perfectly adequate.

Which is why I suggested approaching it from the angle of feeling degraded or humiliated by being made to use the disabled loos. Equality legislation focuses very strongly on how a policy makes the victim feel. 'Harassment', under the Act, means that the company has done something that either violates the worker's dignity, or creates an intimidating, hostile, degrading, humiliating or offensive environment for that worker. So if Bethany were to approach it from that angle (e.g. if she feels humiliated at having to be seen walking into the disabled loos in front of her colleagues), she might have some success.

I'm very fortunate in that I work for a small company where we only have 3 loos in the whole building, so they're all unisex. But I do face the same problem as you ladies when I go out in public, which is why I go everywhere armed with my carry letter. It isn't a magic wand that gets rid of discrimination, but it strengthens my case if I'm challenged and it helps me feel more confident. It also sneakily mentions the Gender Recognition Act, because my GIC is savvy enough to know that most people won't realise that it doesn't apply to me yet. This is its wording:

To Whom It May Concern
This person is a female to male transsexual in the care of this Medical Clinic. As part of his preparation for gender reassignment he is required to live fully in the male gender role for a period of two years. He should be afforded every courtesy under the terms of the Gender Recognition Act 2004. Your help and consideration in this matter would be greatly appreciated.

BTW, this is a direct quote from the Equality Act, proving that you don't need to have had surgery to be protected:

s.7(2) 2.24: The reassignment of a person's sex may be proposed but never gone through; the person may be in the process of reassigning their sex; or the process may have happened previously. It may include undergoing the medical gender reassignment treatments, but it does not require someone to undergo medical treatment in order to be protected.

So Bethany's boss cannot insist that she undergo medical treatment at all, let alone before she's allowed to use the right facilities. Heck, we don't even need to have had 'the op' in order to get a GRC.

[bethanyjadefowell]

I didn't know that. I am from UK. The thing is, as I am male 'down there', that will be the reason why I can't use the female bathroom. But as I dress female, that is why I can't use the male bathroom. It is not the manager stopping me, as such. But as some people are not happy, she's doing what they want.

When I get to the point where I look female enough to say to people I am female, what do I say/do if I can't use female bathrooms, because someone still thinks of me as a man? The manger has said that was I've changed it will be fine, but it can't be up to her, to tell me i've changed now, so you can use the female bathrooms, can it?

[Joanna Dark]

I went to Philly Trans health. During the whole conference both bathrooms were marked "Gender Neutral", so both men and women went into them. NOTHING at all happened. I don't know how many years they have been going on.

In Philadelphia, a law was passed last year creating unisex bathrooms in all city facilities like City Hall, the courts, etc, etc.. The Convention Center prob decided to follow it. However, at train stations, there is no unisex facility.

[Tristan]

It really depends on where you Are and what there rules are. Lots of places say you look male use the men's room. But some places and family will insist you always use the ladies room. It's stupid

[Shannon1979]

When I get to the point where I look female enough to say to people I am female, what do I say/do if I can't use female bathrooms, because someone still thinks of me as a man? The manger has said that was I've changed it will be fine, but it can't be up to her, to tell me i've changed now, so you can use the female bathrooms, can it?

Once you get to that point they will have to do somthing as it will get to the point where you are being disscriminated against. I would have a word with your boss and say this to him. Its probably just a case of allowing people to get used to the idea. when they have known you as female for a bit it probably wont matter.

[FTMDiaries]

I didn't know that. I am from UK. The thing is, as I am male 'down there', that will be the reason why I can't use the female bathroom. But as I dress female, that is why I can't use the male bathroom. It is not the manager stopping me, as such. But as some people are not happy, she's doing what they want.

When I get to the point where I look female enough to say to people I am female, what do I say/do if I can't use female bathrooms, because someone still thinks of me as a man? The manger has said that was I've changed it will be fine, but it can't be up to her, to tell me i've changed now, so you can use the female bathrooms, can it?

Can you go higher up? Does your boss have a boss you could speak to? Or do you have a Human Resources department that you could consult?

Your boss is clearly not trained to know what to do in this situation, because it sounds like she's putting your colleagues' opinions above your own. Plenty of us with the wrong equipment 'down there' are using the correct toilets for our gender. If your boss can't sort this out for you, go higher up.

At the very least, once you've changed your name & have a diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria from a medical professional, that should be sufficient to get you in the ladies'. Once again, you do not need any surgery at all (or hormones, for that matter) to be considered female.