Some people just don't understand!!!

[bethanyjadefowell]

It's been nine months now as Bethany (female clothes, hair and makeup), but some people are just so stupid.

There's a lady I work with, and she will call me 'Beth' but then say 'he'. Not all the time, however, when its in front of customers it's not good. I have other people call me by my new name, but still call me 'he' every time.

I was at the bus stop other month (this year) and I had two people, again, calling me 'he'. Stupid when I was wearing shoes, mini skirt, tight, and a really girly jacket.

Plus, these people know what I am doing but don't understand how stupid they are going to make me look to people who don't know me.

Does anyone of you still get called 'he' (mtf) or she (ftm) from people who know what you are doing?

[Renee]

I occasionally get that, even after 7 years of fulltime. I try to ignore it and honestly, I think most that overhear it assume the person is just making a mistake.

[Joanna Dark]

I kind of have the opposite problem: everyone that meets me  calls me she and I have to stop myself from correcting them as I always feel like I don't pass and that they are not very bright for thinking I am a woman. I don't see it and it's starting to really bother me.

You look female to me though so I think once you restart hormones (and you will) that it will stop. Do people who meet you call you she?

[Tristan]

Yes. We have some Christians in my exstened family and they always refer to me as he and makes sure everyone knows it wherever we go 

[Edge]

Yeah I have some people who will call me Victor, but also call me she. They've gotten better though.
I've also had people who I was introduced to as Victor who call me she. I guess a male name isn't enough of a clue.

[VenomGaia]

You would not believe how often that happens.

In the beginning of the year, I decided I was gonna try and experiment. Unfortunately, one of my friends decided to give me the nickname "Havoc," and call me a "she" every time she saw me. Which, of course, pissed me off, due to the fact that she would introduce me as her crazy female friend.

once not too long ago, a friend outed me during a skype call due to someone being confused on whether i was a feminine male or a masculine female. I think it was on purpose, but i can't be mad at him because he's been helpful and has remembered to call me a "he" and by my chosen name every other time.

[bethanyjadefowell]

The people I am talking about only call me 'he'. There are other people who will class me as female (even in the first week).

I think once I have changed, if people still call me he, then it will be me saying "if you can't see I am now a she, and class me as one, then don't talk to me, as you will just make yourself look stupid"

[Shannon1979]

As i have only just gone full time i haven't experienced to much of that so far. But i have informed people that i will keep reminding them. I think it does take time for people you have known for a while to get it into there heads to refer to you as male/female depending. but it have also made it very clear that it is not that i will be angry reminding them, it's just that reminding them. the problem i can foresee is being able to distinguish between the people who do it by mistake and the ones who do it deliberately.

[Alainaluvsu]

I was he'd by everybody who knew me before. When I moved and met new people that never happened. Even after people know that I'm trans, supportive or not, call me female pronouns.

It's just harder for people to switch genders inside of their heads than it is to switch names.

[barbie]

Does anyone of you still get called 'he' (mtf) or she (ftm) from people who know what you are doing?

It happens frequently to me.

Depending who they are, you have better politely talk and ask them to call you properly. Usually they do not understand what you want, but they can get it quickly once you explain in detail.

Nowadays, when I wear skirts, my friends call me as 'lady' or similar pronouns. Even in dull mode, they jokingly call me as lady. That is partly because I once explained my situation in detail, like "How would I feel if your guys call me Mr. in public while I am wearing skirt?" Then, they quickly understand it. They like me and respect my feeling.

barbie~~