Unbelievable

[av1]

whether watching this is wrong or not i don't know. My parents hide almost every problem from me saying that keep the children away so i eavesdrop on them to make sure it is not anything serious. they start crying on small problems like yesterday the computer refused to start and my fathers work was stopped so he spoke like he was crying(although there is nothing wrong in crying, my eyes are so dry that hardly a tear comes out when i want to cry). when i see them i can't calm down, my pulse raises and i can't ask them about it.

[Simon]

My parents hide almost every problem from me saying that keep the children away so i eavesdrop on them to make sure it is not anything serious.

That's normal for parents to do. They don't want their children to be stressed about things that aren't theirs to stress about. They want their kids to have a nice adolescence because there will be plenty of time for them to be stressed out as adults in the future. They do that because they love you. They also do it because quite frankly everything isn't your business. Maybe this is a harsh lesson in how not to be nosy for you.

[av1]

eavesdrop does not mean that i stay glued finding what has happened-there is just one thing which i see without their permission and that is medical reports.
and i remember that first time i watched my favorite t.v. channel in front of all family members there was a scene in which girls were swimming - and everyone,including my father said -'why are you watching these people getting naked?' and i was confused. even now when i know that such a a scene is coming up i will change the channel but there is no objection if a scene is seen in an ad on a family channel..........

[chuck]

eavesdrop does not mean that i stay glued finding what has happened-there is just one thing which i see without their permission and that is medical reports.
and i remember that first time i watched my favorite t.v. channel in front of all family members there was a scene in which girls were swimming - and everyone,including my father said -'why are you watching these people getting naked?' and i was confused. even now when i know that such a a scene is coming up i will change the channel but there is no objection if a scene is seen in an ad on a family channel..........

sounds like typical hypocrisy that occurs in a religion or culture that denies sexual impulses. Here is your bottom line av: 

It is NORMAL for men to look at porn. Stop worrying. 

[Jack_M]

sounds like typical hypocrisy that occurs in a religion or culture that denies sexual impulses. Here is your bottom line av: 

It is NORMAL for men to look at porn. Stop worrying.

Couldn't agree more. It's sad when religion and some cultures try to make sex and everything sexual wrong/sinful and tends to cause a lot of harm. Instead it should be taught that it is natural, it is okay, and it is normal. What isn't normal is to deny oneself sexual thoughts or actions. That's frankly just weird. No matter how many times kids are told to never touch themselves, they're 9 times out of 10 going to do it. And I personally find it to be child abuse to make kids feel guilty or bad for it!

In this case it seems that av1 believes and was brought up to believe it's wrong/sinful and proves this approach to be harmful in the way they're freaking out over something natural despite all our assurances. Freaking out over someone watching porn is like freaking out over a flower growing. It's natural and it's common. It's not Armageddon.

Seriously av1, people are even joking over the success of Fifty Shades of Grey saying that horny women have played a vital role in helping to fix the economy by buying this book in such high numbers. That's primarily porn for women. We can track that because it's a book so we have best seller lists and they brag about numbers sold. When it comes to video porn (that's more aimed at guys) it's an even bigger industry.

Chalk this up to hypocrisy and quit worrying about it. Watching porn is fine, acceptable and common. You only need worry if he's watching illegal material, like child porn or snuff films. That's not natural and THAT is when it's justifiable to freak out.