facebook

[jossef-ftm]

almost everybody have a facebook account but as a transguy do you choose people to add i mean do you always add only ftms and mtfs or you add everybody cause i always have problems when i add not trans people when u put a pic where u dont complitely pass they start the stupid questions like why u look like a girl -.-' and always when they inbox you , you have to tell ur life story, and half of them dont even know what transgender mean , so i always have to unfriend them cause when they know they start acting wierd or hate , i feel like even in fb trans people cant live a normal life..

[Hayzer12]

Do you not know the people you're adding on FB?
Are you out in your every day in-person life?

I changed everything after I was out, and I'm now stealth to new individuals and all of my friends on facebook are cisgender, and some do and some do not know about my past. If you're out, I'm not sure why you can't just tell everyone you're a guy and have it like that. And if they ask why you look like a girl, just be like "IUNNO DOUCHE".. and leave it at that. A lot of my guy friends make jokes about each other and themselves for being girly.

[jossef-ftm]

i'm not on T yet i'm in a country where no ltgb rights but i choose to not live a lie alll my accounts in fb/twitter or any social media are with my male name not my birth name and poeple dont know the truth about me being a tg so thats why..

[Natkat]

I know a couple of transpeople (and non trans people) makes multiply accounts for diffrent use.
ex there openly trans in one acount and on the other there not.
the reason for it is diffrent. For some people they are not able to come out and because of that they have one account who is where there not out, and another acount where they are more out, also one I know is pretty famours in the media so she has 2 acounts one who is more political and one who is just for friend talking. Most of the people who do that do not use the same name or pictures on there acount.

I think maybe it could be an idea to have one account where you are more open and one where you are more stealth, and if people ask you why you look so girly just say late puberty or something. I usunally say that and my dad he also hit puberty late.

[FTMDiaries]

I've been on FB for years, but I've set the Privacy settings so that only Friends can see my profile or contact me. I only add people I actually know in real life. Everyone else just sees my name but no personal details. It's important to me as a trans person to control who gets to see what about me, particularly since my name is unusual so I'd be very easy to find if anyone with nefarious purposes wanted to look me up.

I used to use my birth name on FB, and before transitioning I contacted everyone I'd ever known in my entire life and added them as friends so I wouldn't lose touch with them after my name changed. Then once I'd added everyone I could think of, I came out on FB and changed my name.

Do you know how many friends unfriended me because of that?

None.

[aleon515]

I'm not stealth, but let's just say initially I kind of was. I have two accts. I have just been lazy about the second one and haven't worked on closing it as it is "out of sight out of mind". I am a certified clicker trainer (dog trainer) and have people I know in that context. I haven't told them, but as I said, I'm more lazy. My other acct has a lot of trans people, but it is more because a lot of my current friends are trans. I think if someone were completely stealth they'd need to concerned about FB. I don't think it is safe from a security standpoint. I met someone who is stealth though on FB, I got a message from him something on the order of that I don't want other people posting stuff about trans to my personal acct. Of course, I honor this but since my stuff might appear on his wall I wonder how this works for him.

--Jay

[John Smith]

I have two accounts as well. Pretty much everyone knows I'm trans, so it's not really for privacy issues. Well, I guess it sort of is. I use one account exclusively for trans groups on facebook. I'm just not comfortable being active in large groups with heaps of "strangers"  under my real account.