Has anyone ever thought about having a kid?

[mikaelmackison]

I've typed multiple responses at this point but struggle to post them.  That may be because I am tired.

To answer your question, yes, I have thought about having a child.  In truth, I have birthed 3.  All 3 pregnancies occurred prior to transition, for what that's worth.

[randomroads]

Jack_M said it best for me and I'm grateful to him. I can't talk about it myself because what I'd say is offensive and that's uncalled for.

[Adam (birkin)]

Yeah, I'm glad Jack said it first. Being born female, for me, was a mistake. To me, being impregnated, carrying the child, and essentially making use of the organs goes against everything I am working for. I should been born male sexed, and male sexed people cannot get pregnant (at this time anyway). I don't feel the need to have my own biological child that badly that I'd betray everything I know be to true about myself - which is that my brain does NOT match my female sex in any way, shape, or form.

[Kreuzfidel]

While I like the idea of having a child that is "genetically" mine, it doesn't bother me.  I would love a child that is adopted or the product of IVF just as much as one that was biologically my own.

Ideally, what would be good is to have one child that is genetically mine (via frozen eggs) and one genetically my wife's (IVF/sperm donor). 

I would never be able to cope with carrying or giving birth to a child, though. 

[sneakersjay]

If you want to do it, do it.  Just because others are freaked out at the prospect of being pregnant and giving birth doesn't mean that you can't.  Thomas Beatty did it 3x.   You with a pregnant belly will only stick out if you want it to.  Otherwise you can blame it on beer or some other medical anomaly.  I've seen people with oddly shaped guts AND oddly shaped chests and heck, oddly shaped bodies.

Bottom line it's your life, your decision.  And defer to doctors regarding T and time frames for conception, etc.

Good luck.


Jay, parent of 2 (pre-transition kids)

[anibioman]

Exactly, I have been wondering the same. I know there are many levels of dysphoria, but carrying a baby to full term is about the most womanly thing someone could do. It would kill me. Could someone who wouldn't mind getting pregnant and giving birth explain this? I am very curious how this works in someone's mind.

yeah even girls find it gross. i would probably ask my brothers for donations scramble them and use that. that;s the closest we would get to "our" baby.